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Thank God it’s F*cking Friday!

Why am I excited that it’s Friday?

Although I work from home, it’s still work!  Yes I’m grateful to work in the comfort of my home but juggling kids, home and work all at once can be daunting.

For some Friday fun, here’s a quick day in my life of a work-at-home mom in numbers:

 

Number of words I swore in my head because I had to wake up at 5am:  3  (F*ck, mother-f*cker and f*ck this

Number of extreme sports I witnessed:  5   (including  The Destroyer doing somersaults off the couch; The Boss running and sliding on knees to see how far he could go; both jumping off the bed.)

Number of times I had to re-heat my damn coffee:  3

Number of bums I had to wipe:  2

Number of emails in my inbox:  132

Number of times I said “STOP IT!”:  15

Wrestling moves I observed:   7  (including The Boss jumping on top the Destroyer; the Destroyer puts the Boss in a tight headlock; both kicking each other simultaneously)

Number of Tweets I wrote:  75

Top stories of the day:  1

(Demi Lovato in rehab… who is she?)

Number of times I wish I had vodka in the house:  3

Number of articles/posts written:  7

Number of coffees I had before 7am:  2a day in the life of a work at home mom

Kilometers driven: 15

Number of times I had to get up while eating lunch:  3

Time spent in the kitchen cooking and/or cleaning:  4 hours

Number of timeouts:  2

Number of threats for timeouts: 6

Number of times I had to break up a fight:  12

Number of things checked off my to-do list:  7

Time I had for myself:  0

Number of times I kissed my boys:  22 each

Number of times I heard Mommy today:  148

Number of times I heard “I love you mommy” today:  12

kids hockeyby Kathy Buckworth

This generation seems to have developed a love for children’s organized team sports unlike any before it. Whether it’s an acknowledgement to increased global competition, a focus on fitness, or simply a love of the juice box planning schedule, from soccer to hockey to football, baseball,  and anything else where head injuries are imminent, we’re all there, screaming (and writing cheques) from the sidelines. 

But lately I’ve been wondering where I fit in…you see I have a confession to make.  I don’t like watching team sports.  I especially don’t like watching children’s team sports.  I particularly don’t like watching my own children play team sports.  It’s painful.  It’s boring.  And it’s a situation full of conflict, and not just during the game.

Contradiction, thy name is team sports.  Without exception, listen in to a pre-game session and every kids’ sports team coach will pronounce that “The Number 1 Rule is Having Fun, Right Kids?”  Crap.  The unspoken Number 1 Rule is that you little brats better win this game and improve your level of play so that the coach and the parents can have bragging rights at the office/on the playground later.  Otherwise, why do you have them in competitive sports? The word “Competition” is right there.

We all know the parents who say “I don’t actually care if Johnny plays hockey – it’s all down to him, and if he loves it, I’ll keep supporting it.”  Crap, crap crap.  This is said minutes after they were leaning over them in the change room saying “I don’t care if you don’t want to practice – we paid for it and you’re going to do it.  If you don’t practice you’ll never make the A Team. You’re seven years old, bud.  It’s time to smarten up.”

I have some children who participate in team sports, and they love it.   I love that they love team sports.  What I don’tare team sports good for kids love is the fact that they are disappointed if I have my head stuck in a book or an electronic messaging device at the exact moment they score a goal or cross a finish line.  So I just don’t go. 

Then, when they beg me to come and see them, I go, they inevitably lose (sorry kids!), I’m pronounced a bad luck charm and I get to retreat once more.  It’s not that I’m not a competitive person, I am, but I can’t get or feel competitive about having my child beat out someone else’s child. I find it really weird and totally disconcerting when children pronounce themselves the best player on the team…in front of all of the other team mates. 

I’ve worked in the corporate world and I’ve seen some real sharks in action, but some of these kids could put them to shame.  Maybe that’s what they’re learning.  After all, by definition, team sports are designed to produce a winning team and a losing team.  Children can get some great life lessons out of that. 

And the biggest contradiction of all is that all players, on every team, are proud recipients of the “thanks for turning up trophies” they receive at the team dinner.  All I know is that when you have to build a trophy shelf for your six year old, there’s a problem. 

Perhaps if they start handing out trophies for the “Most Fun Player” (and for once it doesn’t mean they were the worst player), then maybe I’ll buy into a bit more.  Hey, maybe instead of being the soccer mom or the hockey mom, I can be the Trophy Mom.  Or not.

Kathy BuckworthKathy Buckworth’s latest book is “Shut Up and Eat: Tales of Chicken, Children and Chardonnay”, and is available everywhere books are sold.  Visit www.kathybuckworth.com or follow Kathy on Twitter.

A new session of Managing Expectations is starting in Newmarket!

The popular program will be running at the Ontario Early Years Centre in Newmarket starting Tuesdays, November 16th.  The program will run for six weeks and is run by Life With A Baby, a project of Healthy Start, Healthy Future, a non-profit organization for expectant and new parents of children aged 0-6.

More more information and to register, visit www.lifewithababy.com

What are eating disorders?

Eating disorders are a group of conditions characterized by abnormal eating habits that may involve either insufficient or excessive food intake to the detriment of an individual’s physical and emotional health, binge eating disorder, bulimia nervosa, anorexia nervosa being the most common specific forms in the United States.

Reasons for eating disorders are poorly known but may vary from person to person. Factors contributing to eating disorders range from ADHD to mental health disorders to body image. Some think that peer pressure and idealized body-types seen in the media are also a significant factor.

No Body is Perfect

What are some facts?

Here are is the astonishing truth:

In the United States:

  • It is estimated that 8 million Americans have an eating disorder – seven million women and one million men
  • One in 200 American women suffers from anorexia
  • Two to three in 100 American women suffers from bulimia
  • Nearly half of all Americans personally know someone with an eating disorder (Note: One in five Americans suffers from mental illnesses.)
  • An estimated 10 – 15% of people with anorexia or bulimia are males

In Canada:

  • In 2005, more than 500,000 Canadians suffered from some sort of eating disorder (Canadian Mental Health Association).
  • According to a 2002 survey, 1.5% of Canadian women aged 15 – 24 years had an eating disorder.
  • Eating disorders have the highest mortality rate of any mental illness, between 18-20%
  • Eating disorders are the most common chronic illnesses in the female adolescent population, with an incidence of up to 5%.
  • Men are more likely to be affected by binge eating disorder than any other type of eating disorder.
  • A study published in 2001 reported that 23% of adolescent females were dieting to lose weight
  • According to a 2002 survey, 28% of girls in grade nine and 29% in grade ten engaged in weight-loss behaviours.
Why are eating disorders prevalent in our youth?eating disorder awareness

Grade-nine students already see themselves as “too fat”.  According to a study, 37% of girls in grade nine and 40% in grade 10 perceived themselves as too fat.

Even those students who are normal in weight (based on their body mass index or BMI), 19% believed that they were too fat, and 12% of students reported attempting to lose weight.

Boys are not excluded from this disorder.  In a survey of adolescents in grades 7-12, 25% of boys reported being teased by their peers about their weight (girls 30%).

And it doesn’t stop at school.  Such teasing has been found to persist in the home as well – 29% of girls and 16% of boys reported having been teased by a family member about their weight.

Eating disorders and the Media:

Our girls are starting out way too early worrying about their weight.  What is to blame?

The link between eating disorders and the media is high on the list of factors.  Self-esteem becomes too closely tied to physical attributes and girls feel they can’t measure up to society standards.   My article on celebrities who suffer from eating disorders shows the prevalence of body image issues in Hollywood itself.

The media, including television, movies, videos, music, magazines and the internet all portray images of girls and women in a sexual manner, such as revealing clothing, body posture and facial expressions, as models of femininity for girls to emulate.  How can our young girls not be influenced if this is all they see?

What can you do?

Search for local treatment in your area.

Call or visit the website of a national organization, such as the National Eating Disorder Information Centre.    Womenshealth.gov offers some great resources as does the National Eating Disorders Association and the National Institute of Mental Health.

Visit Girls Inc.

Visit Dove Self-Esteem 

Visit Teens Health 

Read a personal account by Sharon DeVellis

Read Part 1 on AMW here

Sources: http://www.nedic.ca/knowthefacts/statistics.shtml  and Wikipedia

Once October hits, the requests for Pecan Pie come flying in – it’s my husband’s favourite. 

Pecans are nuts that are native to the southern United States, so it’s no surprise that Pecan pie is probably one of the best Southern sweets out there…  sweet potato pie is a close second. This creamy, custardy version of the fabulous Southern sweet is really the best I’ve ever had.  

I’m sharing my Pecan Pie recipe because it’s super easy to prepare and absolutely delicious.

Easy Pecan Pie Recipe

Ingredients:

4 eggs

1/3 cups packed brown sugar

1 1/4 cup corn syrup (use 1 cup only if using a smaller pie shell)

1/3 cup butter, melted

1 1/4 teaspoons vanilla

1 cup pecan halves

9-inch unbaked pie shell

Instructions:

In a bowl, beat eggs by hand until foamy.  Add brown sugar and mix well.  Blend in corn syrup, butter and vanilla and stir until smooth.  Stir in pecans.  Pour into the pie shell.

You may want to pour the mix into the pie shell while the shell is already on the oven rack – otherwise transferring the shell pan to the oven might lead to some spilling (learned from experience)!

Bake in a preheated oven at 350F for about 50-55 minutes, until the centre is puffed and set.  The filling will jiggle slightly in the centre.

Top with chocolate or caramel drizzle, or serve with ice-cream. Enjoy! 

 
This Easy Pecan Pie Recipe is the Best Southern Sweet | amotherworld.com
This Easy Pecan Pie Recipe is the Best Southern Sweet | amotherworld
Yield: 1 pie

This Easy Pecan Pie Recipe is the Best Southern Sweet

This Easy Pecan Pie Recipe is the Best Southern Sweet

This creamy, custardy version of the fabulous Southern sweet is really the best I've ever had.  

Prep Time 5 minutes
Cook Time 55 minutes
Total Time 1 hour

Ingredients

  • 4 eggs
  • 1/3 cups packed brown sugar
  • 1 1/4 cup corn syrup (use 1 cup only if using a smaller pie shell)
  • 1/3 cup butter, melted
  • 1 1/4 teaspoons vanilla
  • 1 cup pecan halves
  • 9-inch unbaked pie shell

Instructions

  1. In a bowl, beat eggs by hand until foamy. 
  2. Add brown sugar and mix well. 
  3. Blend in corn syrup, butter and vanilla and stir until smooth. 
  4. Stir in pecans. 
  5. Pour into pie shell.
  6. Bake in preheated oven at 350F for about 50-55 minutes, until centre is puffed and set. 

Notes

You may want to pour the mix into the pie shell while the shell is already on the oven rack - otherwise transferring the shell pan to the oven might lead to some spilling (learned from experience)!

The filling will jiggle slightly in the centre when the pie is ready.

 

by Shannon Lintott 

I attend quite a lot of movies in various movie theatres across the GTA and I always notice when parents bring their children to the movies. Especially to any late night features that are above and beyond a PG rating. Generally I try to stay open minded of parents choosing to do this but one day last week, as I attended a showing of the new Bruce Willis action film Red I saw a couple bring in their practically new born baby. 

At first I couldn’t believe that they would do that. After all, regardless of being awake or asleep, the sound levels in movie theatres these days are obnoxious even to adult ears. Then if the baby was awake there is no telling what it would have gotten from all the blood, shooting, swearing and over dose of action on the screen and in the theatre (late night showings always bring out the most colourful people).  

Movies for Mommies 

I had always seen advertisements at the Rainbow Cinema’s for Movies for Mommies and I immediately thought of that. I wondered if this couple had ever heard of this option and if so, would they attend these special screenings. Regardless of that certain couple, I wanted to put the word out there to other mommies, couples and families about screenings for their young children. 

Movies for Mommies do screenings in various theatres in Ontario, Quebec, British Columbia, Saskatchewan and Alberta. Admission also includes access to change tables, diapers and wipes, bottle warming and other baby-friendly services and promotional items. Every theatre that is involved with Movies for Mommies either has parking around them or are located close to public transit spots so they are easily accessible. Best part about Movies for Mommies is that you don’t have to be a mommy to attend. Fathers, grandparents and caregivers are also welcome. 

The movies are not restricted to family friendly features as the movies themselves are for the adults, but basically what it means is they leave the lights at a comfortable level so you can see and move around freely, the sound level is set lower, screen times are in the afternoon and you can be surrounded by equally as sympathetic people if your baby cries during the movie. They do note that if you bring a toddler to be advised that the movies are not always meant for children and you should look up what movies are playing before attending a screening. 

For further information, visit Movies for Mommies. 

Stars & Strollers
Stars & Strollers

There are many of these types of screenings that are brought to you by other companies and theatres, another popular one is Stars and Strollers.  This event is only available at select Cineplex Odeon theatres in Ontario, Manitoba, British Columbia, Saskatchewan and Quebec.  

Stars and Strollers have about the same thing offered as Movies for Mommies yet they seem to be less strict about having to come with a child in order to attend their special screenings. They have it set up as more of a special matinee showing with dimmed lights and lower sound levels but with stroller parking and change tables. 

Regardless, both are better options than bringing your new born and/or young children to a 9:00pm showing of a blasting, fast action, shooter-upers. If anything, the best part about these special baby screenings will be the people that choose to attend. Finally you can get away from the teenagers swearing, people with their feet on the seats and the general uncomfortable feeling that usually goes with a packed evening screening.

 

 

  

 

Shannon Lintott
Photo by Scarletta Photography
Shannon Lintott works in production at a professional theatre company in Toronto. A recent graduate of the Ryerson Performance Production BFA program, she spends her free time exploring the internet, taking photographs, reading or writing on one of her numerous and addictive websites. The majority of her time is spent watching movies and reviewing them on her movie review blog I Like (good) Movies. Follow Shannon on Twitter.  
 

 

HEELing Hunger

HEELing Hunger is a fabulous movement started by Dee Brun and Marci O’Connor to help end hunger.

Essentially it’s a fabulous Shoe Swap but with all profits going to local food banks across Canada.

To participate, visit the HEELing Hunger website to find all the details.  All you need to do is donate a minimum of $9 a pair of your gently used shoes to the shoe swap Fundraiser.  In return, you get to help feed local food banks, feel good and get a fabulous pair of shoes!

“The goal is to have everyone walking around in their fabulous shoes knowing they have done something kind in their own backyard,” says Dee Brun.

What inspired Dee and Marci to start HEELing Hunger?

The Kindness Revolution that has started in Social media inspired me to do ‘something. So I pledged to donate my earnings from my CocktailDeeva parties to local food banks for all of 2011. It wasn’t until Marci reached out and sent me an email, telling me about her clothes swapping business and her idea to do a shoe swap to help food banks that all the pieces fell together. I put my foot in my mouth on a daily basis…I have no brain to mouth filter, I say that is why I wear fabulous shoes. So at least it looks good. Now I am going to put my foot in my mouth to help end hunger.”

To participate and donate, visit www.heelinghunger.com.

Follow HEELing Hunger on Twitter

Funday Sunday

On Sunday, November 28, 2010, get the whole family together to enjoy Toronto’s biggest family fun fest!

The event features:

  • A Children’s Village with games, face painting and performances by Doo Doo the Clown, Sonshine and Brocolli and Kayla
  • a teenage Fun Zone with arcade games and a skateboard challenge
  • Ask An Expert sponsored by Sunnybrook and a shopping experience like no other in the Marketplace, an adaptation of the former Hadassah Bazaar
  • Items sold in the Marketplace are new, highly discounted and feature leather coats, clothing and household items.

When:  Sunday, November 28, 2010   9:00 am – 5:00 pm

Where: Metro Toronto Convention Centre, North Building

General Admission:       Adult pass $12  Child pass $8                                     

Ticket Special:  Family Pass for $39 – includes 2 adults & 4 kids

Tickets can be purchased online at www.fundaysunday.ca

Enter to win a Famiy Pass to Funday Sunday!  Contest ends November 19th.

 All funds raised will support the new, state-of-the-art Women & Babies Program facility at Sunnybrook and the lives of women, children and youth in Israel and Canada through the Canadian Hadassah-WIZO (CHW). For more information, please visit www.fundaysunday.ca

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Seasons ShowI love me a good home show.

But this one is even more fun – because it’s all about Christmas!

The most wonderful time of the year… Bah humbug you say?  No way!

The Seasons Christmas Show is a one stop shopping experience with everything for holiday decorating, entertaining and gift giving.

You’ll be treated to a sensory overload of festive sights, smells and sounds and an experience that is sure to put you in the holiday spirit.

Shopping shouldn’t be a chore it should be a fun filled day out – catch a celebrity presentation, take in a workshop, relax with a cocktail, take in the awe inspiring decor and of course shop till you drop.

With more than 200 fabulous exhibits filled with luxurious Christmas decor, gourmet treats, one of kind gifts and so much more, you are sure to find everything on your list and then some.

Seasons Christmas ShowBe sure to mark your calendar and call the girls…this is truly a unique shopping experience you won’t want to miss.

Now in its 6th year, the show will be held November 19 – 21, 2010 at the International Centre.

Enter to win 1 of 3 sets of 4 tickets!  So you and the whole family or a bunch of girlfriends, can go together.

Contest ends November 14th!

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Demi Lovato is in rehab getting betterThis week, Demi Lovato made headlines after she checked into a medical center on to get professional help for eating disorders.  A fight with a back-up dancer prompted her to check into rehab for ‘emotional and physical’ issues, which also stemmed from teenage bullying.

Demi, 18, had reportedly been struggling with her weight for quite some time.  “She definitely had body-image issues. She was always conscious of her weight,” the family friend said.  “Like many other teenage girls, she struggled a lot to fit in and find acceptance.

“She fought through eating disorders and has struggled with cutting. [She] is taking control by getting help.”

Why is this continuing to happen to our young girls?  Demi’s troubles are yet another example of how our young women today struggle with poor body image and self-acceptance because of an unhealthy body image in the media.

The singer-actress has recently said, “Feeling comfortable in your clothes is something I deal with to this day. I wish I had somebody I had to look up to when I was younger to stand up and say, ‘Hey, I have fat days.’  So I want to be able to start a foundation or something that’s for girls feeling confident, to empower them.”

Demi’s father also spoke openly about his daughter, blaming the pressure of Hollywood on his daughter’s issues.

Other celebrities who have struggle with weight issues:

Megan Fox?Megan Fox: eating disorder?

Megan fox said of teen girls, “Girls go through different phases when they’re growing up, when they’re miserable and do different things, whether it’s an eating disorder or they dabble in cutting.”

She never confirmed whether she battled an eating disorder but said, “If I did talk about it, I’d be taking on a role-model status, and I’d have to choose my words very carefully, and I’d have to make sure I reveal it in a specific way, and I don’t want to do it.”

Lady Gaga: eating disorder?Lady Gaga?

If Lady Gaga’s former tour manager is to be believed, America’s favorite musical fashion queen is suffering from a serious eating disorder and was hospitalized at least six times in 2009.

“When I say she was sick, I mean physically and mentally,” David Ciemny claims in a new unauthorized tell-all “Poker Face: The Rise and Rise of Lady Gaga,” according to RadarOnline.

The book, written by New York Post veteran reporter Maureen Callahan, interviewed 50 friends, employees, rivals, and music industry veterans, to try and get a fuller picture of the star who grew up as Stefani Germanotta.

Ciemny recalled being on tour with Gaga who would “binge on sweets and unhealthy food, then not eat for weeks to fit into her costumes – one time losing 20 pounds between fittings,” reports Radar.

Gaga’s reps have not confirmed or denied these accusations  but whether or not the celebrity is suffering from an eating disorder, we hope she gets the help she needs.

Portia de Rossi

Portia de Rossi eating disorderFormer ‘Ally McBeal’ actress Portia de Rossi admitted to an eating disorder and blamed Hollywood’s pressure to stay skinny for developing an eating disorder. She was on Ellen just recently talking about her eating disorder very openly. The actress has spoken about those days she spent eating less than 300 calories, bingeing, and purging.

At one low point, the actress found herself at an alarming 82 pounds. Hollywood loves to reward weight loss, but sometimes the stars take it too far. With therapy and emotional support from wife Ellen De Generes, Portia is back to her current 125-pound weight and hopes to keep improving.

Eating Disorders and the Media

Eating Disorders: The facts and how to get help

 

Photos: Wikipedia