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Courtney Love shared her thoughts on the tragic death of Amy Winehouse with Rolling Stone.

“I’m not even going to say, ‘Waste of glorious sublime talent,’ which I feel,” Love said of the 27-year-old singer. “I’m fu**ing gutted. I tried with her, I tried twice.”

Amy Winehouse was found dead at her home in London on July 23.  It’s believed Winehouse’s death was due to a suspected drug overdose.  A source has said that that she was seen buying substances, believed to be cocaine, heroin, ecstasy and ketamine leading up to the hours before her death

Love knows what it’s like to battle addiction – her private life and personal struggles have been an open book, most notably the 1994 suicide of her husband, Kurt Cobain who was also 27 when he died.

“We are sensitive, and people around us take advantage of that. It is fucking pain every day and every night.”

Love battled her addictions, eventually losing custody of her daughter Frances Bean.

Courtney, 46 said: “I promised I would not shoot heroin repeatedly, and I haven’t, besides as an incident in July 2005, where I shot myself up above intention to kill myself.”

Courtney Love bullied her own daughter Frances Bean Cobain on Facebook back in 2009 after losing custody of her. At the time Cobain was 17 years old and wanted to live with her grandmother instead of her mother.   Love then posted a rant on Facebook following the judge’s decision to let Cobain live with her grandmother.

Love’s “heroin screenplay” addiction began during a party at Charlie Sheen’s house.

In May 2011, Love made public statements that she was “tired” of her reputation as a drug addict.

“I’ve been maligned as this drug freak for years, and I’m getting tired of it. That’s not the way I live anymore. I try to work a good program. I don’t do smack. I don’t do crack anymore.”

Sadly, Winehouse joins the “27 club” of musicians who died at the age of 27 – Kurt Cobain, Jim Morrison, Jimi Hendrix, Janis Joplin and Brian Jones.

Not going to the BlogHer Conference this year?  Bummed about it?

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amotherworld and Bored Mommy Blog are hosting a “Not Going To BlogHer” party on Twitter and you’re invited!

Friday, August 5, 2011 –  8pm – 10pm EST on Twitter


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All you have to do to join the party is to make sure you follow @amotherworld and @BoredMommy and use the hashtag #NotGoingToBlogHer.

What’s a Twitter party without some fabulous prizes!  To be entered to win, you’ll need to respond to each of the questions with the accompanying number (ie. Q1, Q2, etc.) along with the hashtag #NotGoingToBlogHer.

You will have until midnight Friday, August 5th to respond to the questions (EST).  Winners will be chosen randomly and announced on Saturday, August 6th

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What about Saturday?  Well, our friends over at BlogHerAtHome are hosting a blog hop on Saturday, August 6th!  They’ll put a linkup on their site, you add your blog to the list and they’ll try to visit as many as they can to say ‘Hi!’.  In the evening, they’ll host a live chat.

 

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Recently, I had to deal with an etiquette question about whether no kids allowed at a wedding was cool or uncool.

I received another invitation in the mail – this time to a bridal shower.

At the bottom of the invite, in capital letters, it reads:

MONETARY GIFTS PREFERRED

Doh!  Isn’t there a bridal registry or something?  Register at The Bay or Sears for God’s sake.  I’m supposed to come and hand over money?

What’s even appropriate these days?  Will $100 cut it?

But if I decide to ignore the bride’s request for cash and bring a gift, will I be given dirty looks?  Will the bride-to-be not appreciate my thoughtful gesture?

In our family/culture, gifts are for engagement parties and bridal showers. Cash is usually what one gives as a gift at the wedding, and most often one tries to cover the cost of their dinner which usually runs around $100 a person.

But for a shower?

The bridal shower is designated to “shower” the couple with items they will need to establish their new home together. If the couple is already living together, or a house already bought and furnished, then  they don’t need a bridal shower.

According to etiquette “experts”, it is tacky on any invite to ask for gifts of money. If many people who the family knows ask what the bride and groom might need, the mom, future mother-in-law, bridesmaids, etc.. can let those people know what you need – ie. money.

How do you feel about “money showers”?

by Mariana Morales

Ontario has released its progress report on education and it is showing much improvement and upgrades to ensure children get the best education as possible.

As early as 2003, schools were falling apart as there were too many children in classrooms, and too many days lost due to teacher strikes. Parents lost the assurance in public funded schools and would turn to private schools. However since then, Ontario has worked hard to ensure that students do not lose a school day during teacher strikes.

To ensure students get the best start to school as possible, Ontario will be putting full-day kindergarten in all schools by 2014. Just in 2012 alone, 900 schools will offer it. There will be more teachers, and smaller class sizes so that students will enjoy the time spend and gain skills for the future.

In 2002-03, the percentage of Grade 3 and 6 students who meet Ontario’s standards in reading, writing, and math came to 54%. In 2009-10, that percentage raised to 68%. Ontario’s next goal is to increase that number to 75%.

Ontario has a greater post-secondary education rate than the other 34 OECD countries. They are aiming to increase the number of people living in Ontario with a post-secondary education to 70%.  More students will be graduating as they are working towards a 85% graduation rate.

There are still things to be done throughout the province, and they are just getting started. Children are the future and changes begin now to ensure the best future possible.

 

Mariana Morales is a full-time student at Conestoga College studying Print Journalism. She enjoys photography and is a volunteer at the Snap KW newspaper. What makes her different? She loves video games. In her spare time, she writes articles for a gaming website called Hooked Gamers. She hopes one day to work in the video game industry.  Follow her on Twitter.

Brown diaries – The Final Installment
by Julie Green

For those of you familiar with my blog, Little Green One, you know the road to toilet independence has been a long one, paved with no shortage of obstacles. After all, there were, I’m sorry to say, not one but a total of three installments – which is proof that when it came to to potty dance, this mom was going at it all wrong.

I’m pleased to announce that we are now there, and my son isn’t even 20!  Still, I feel so ravaged from the process, which started so many moons ago — somewhere between 3-6 months ago — that by rights, I really should have an “I Survived Potty Training” T-shirt.  (Come to think of it, maybe I should market those. Watch this space…)

The point is, like many moms and dads desperate to burn the Huggies or Pampers, I too was so keen to get my son on the toilet that I committed cardinal sin number one of potty training — I worked on MY timetable as opposed to HIS.  With hindsight being what it is, I would have followed the incredibly common sense of parenting educator, Janet Lansbury, whose post about potty training made me rethink my strategy.

In case you don’t know, Janet’s whole philosophy, known as RIE, is very much child-centred, meaning — and I paraphrase very lightly — we parents don’t give our kids nearly enough credit for following their own cues when it comes to development.  They are way smarter than we think, and most are onto, and don’t at all respond well to, coercion.

Well, in the Green house that certainly was the case. My son could “go potty” at will, it seemed, yet for the longest time refused point-blank.  When we asked if he needed to go, he would get livid.  Truly snarky.  We tried sticker charts for a while, then Smarties. And when he wore the “cool” undies we bought him, he soiled them within a matter of minutes. He may have walked around the house like John Wayne but never complained about the load he was carrying. He didn’t give a rat’s, so what’s a parent to do?

Then came the turning point.  To a large extent, I backed off.  While he got the occasional Smartie for “producing”, he still wouldn’t tell us when he needed to go. We let him wear underwear when we were sticking around the house, and started popping him on the potty at routine intervals when he didn’t strongly object.Bar a few accidents that finally saw him burst into tears on our (thankfully) hardwood floors, he stayed more or less dry for 3 consecutive days.

Then we got reckless; we attempted to Leave The House. A dribble the first time at the local park.  Then with each passing day, we took him farther afield and practiced on public toilets. He held his bladder. He’s been dry now for a week and I hate to tempt fate, being what it is, but I think we’re there.  Some nights he stays dry, but so far we haven’t even thought to cross that bridge yet.  For now I’m happy waiting to follow his lead, to see where it takes us…

Julie M Green (aka Little Green Mom) is a novelist and freelance writer who rants and raves about all things mommy at Little Green One.  She lives in Toronto with her husband and two-year-old son, Jackson.  Visit her website or follow her on Twitter.

by Danielle Christopher

Most days I let hot topics that I read go because I do not want to add fuel to the fire. It is interesting how some write opinions that they would never say in a face to face conversation. The hot topic this past week did ruffle me. The subject is banning kids under 6 in restaurants.

Social media lit up with the fire that this topic caused. The first time I read about it was on Dawn Chubai’s (local BT Vancouver host) Facebook page with the simple status update “thoughts?” and the link. Many chimed in on how they would love it. One friend piped in when do we stop banning-go back in time? Is this really 2011?” I contributed in my personal thoughts (which I will share later here) and it got liked by many people.

Here in BC there are many places to go that are kid-fee. The bars and pubs have a strict “No Minors Allowed policy.”  When I get a rare time-out with my fellow parent friends we frequent establishments like that or lounges. Rarely will you find kids in a fine restaurant after 7pm, locally.

I posed to my peeps on Twitter.  Here is a sampling from parents including personal experiences.

@ALotOfLoves Not all places are child friendly. I don’t think all restaurants need to be either. Obviously this place didn’t cater to kids. The age thing doesn’t actually bother me. I hear, “We are intolerant & don’t like families”. Result: I won’t go there. Ever.

@BoredMommy I think banning kids from restaurants is just gross. Why don’t they just ban assholes instead.

@scatteredmom http://tinyurl.com/6acxk3m here’s a good story for you.

@phdinparenting My longer thoughts here: http://t.co/acil8Nu

no children allowed in restaurants, should kids be banned from restaurants
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It is sad to think that in this day and age we are resorting to ageism. My children look older than 6 but are much

younger. Do I need to carry their birth certificates?  We know when to go out to eat and when not to. With the costs of eating out higher now due to HST, I value a meal that I do not have to cook and clean for. I bring a bag of tricks to entertain my girls when we go out. Many restaurant managers have stopped by our table to compliment us on how wonderful they are. In case you did not know, my daughters are 2 and 4. We might eat out 2-3 times a month.

We were at our go-to place for lunch when our youngest went into a teething crying fest. I scooped her up and walked outside faster than you could say “Check please.” After a few minutes in the parking lot, a staffer came out to check on us.  My husband had paid the bill with our oldest daughter. The restaurant had packed up my meal and included a coupon for next time. We still go there today.

My question to restaurants:  do you ban obnoxious, drunk and cursing adults? (I have personally seen that they don’t.) My children act better than some adults. It makes me mad they could be judged by other customers or places as trouble just by looking at them.

After reading the Facebook threads and Tweets, it seems that there is a consensus.

1.  To ban is wrong. To have a sweeping rule that if a customer (whatever the age) is bothering other customers they would be asked to leave. Special needs customers are excluded from that discrimination by law in most cities.

2.  It is a parent’s responsibility to teach their kids respect for others. This includes showing them appropriate behaviour in restaurants. It is a very important lesson for them as they grow into adults. If they are unruly then it’s time to leave. They will learn that the fun stops when they are misbehaving.

3.  If you want a guarantee to dine at a kid-free zone, try a lounge, bar, pub or of the like. Look around you might find a new place that kids do not frequent.

What sticks in my brain is that I have never heard of such an age ban in Canada. Yes, there are “minors not allowed” zones, but in a public place all is welcome. Since being a parent and on a tight budget, I treasure eating out with my family because it’s creating memories.

We would love to hear your thoughts. Do you go out with your kids?

 

Danielle Christopher is a stay-at-home mom of two daughters, ages one and three.  She blogs for The Momoir Project and writes book reviews for Women’s Post.  Her teen story is in the collection “Parent/Teen Stories: Without Judgement”.  She lives with her husband of seventeen years and her girls in Langley, B.C..   Follow her on Twitter.

 

 

My eldest is turning seven soon… which means I have to throw a birthday party.

Why the lack of enthusiasm?  Well, planning a birthday party for kids is like planning a wedding.

When did it become so complicated and expensive? Do I need to take out another mortgage for these events? Parents spend too much on birthday parties for kids!

Mommywood types make it very difficult for the average urban (or suburban) mom to compete. Tori Spelling put a petting zoo in her backyard. The Cruise’s had a four-tier birthday cake. Britney Spears’ boys drove around in their own customized Ed Hardy cars.

So what does a commoner do? They throw extravagant birthday parties too.

They even have a reality show called “Party Mamas” featuring over-the-top moms who throw outrageously elaborate and pricey parties.

Crazy, no?  I’ve gone to parties where the parents appear flustered but they just suck it up, dropping hundreds (and those who spend thousands) of dollars on a kid’s birthday party. Impressive but who are we trying to please here? A two-year-old who just wants chocolate cake?

From clowns to face-painters, trampoline parties to indoor playgrounds… from princess themed to pirates… one mom tries to outdo the next in hosting these birthdaypaloozas.

And then there are those moms who have kids celebrating first thing in September and think they have an edge; they’ll be the FIRST to host a party that school year. Then every mom after that has to outdo the previous party! It must be bigger and better.

Does it get easier as the kids get older? Or do the parties become more of a competition once the kids start Grade 1? Is it just that these moms feel like they have to show they are the next best thing to Martha Stewart? Or is it the kids who suddenly turn six and want the huge birthday fiasco?

Whatever happened to making a cake from a box?  Streamers and confetti? After all, the kids want the presents… and cake. Chips and a Duncan Hines birthday cake will suffice. A quick 1.5 hour party where it’s a bit of play, sing happy birthday and out the door – with empty hands.

If guests are bringing a gift and I’m offering lunch, drinks and dessert, do I have to also give out loot bags? Isn’t the food and cake and balloons enough? Do we really need that extra pressure of shopping for dollar-store items for a dozen loot bags?

Seriously, these loot bags are like wedding bombonieres these days!  Do I need to make tags with decorative ribbon for these too?  Who has time to plan all these details???

What do you think about birthday parties these days – over the top or not?

by Maria Stanley

I recently had the opportunity to spend a weekend away with my family at the Ottawa Marriott Hotel in Downtown Ottawa. In desperate need of a weekend away with my brood, I was absolutely thrilled to go. Although we’ve been to Ottawa many times, we’ve never actually stayed at the Marriott before, so it was a great chance to check it out. I will admit that I’m a bit of a hotel snob – I’m always nervous when staying at a new hotel. But after looking up the hotel online, I was impressed – it looked like a beautiful hotel with great amenities for families.

The Ottawa Marriott Hotel boasts 474 rooms on 29 floors (and four concierge levels).  It is located on Kent Street in downtown Ottawa, conveniently located near Parliament, several museums, the Sparks Street Mall, the Rideau Centre, and the Market.  You can follow them on Facebook and Twitter too.

We arrived at the hotel Friday evening, just before dinner. We checked our car at valet parking, and headed into the lobby to check in. The lobby is gorgeous, newly renovated, and huge – large enough to include the front desk area, seating areas, a large desk with two Apple desktop computers for guest use, an attached Starbucks (perfect!) and their restaurant, SPIN Kitchen and Bar. We were greeted by Anathea, Director of eMarketing & Social Media and Arjun, the guest services attendant, which was a lovely surprise. We were promptly checked in, and headed up to our room located on one of the upper floors.

Our room was a corner room, and was actually made up of two separate rooms connected to make for one great room. With the doors left open, it absolutely felt like one room which was great with the kids. There was even a door separating our room from the rest of the floor – the kids really LOVED this. The rooms boast windows that open and even a balcony. However, when making the hotel arrangements, I actually requested that the windows be screwed shut (this is done in the winter months) because I come with a fearless four year old, and didn’t want to spend the weekend trying to keep her away from the windows.

The room was gorgeous, modern and super clean. Each room had its own bathroom, desk and t.v. The beds were beautiful to look at and amazing to sleep in. Actually everything in the room, from the chairs to the lamps to the bedding are available to be purchased – they keep a catalogue in the room  – I wish I could have bought the bedding actually. The room’s location also had an unbelievable view – looking out the window, we could see the Ottawa River, Gatineau and even the Parliament buildings – it was spectacular. The kids were ECSTATIC when they realized that they would each get their own beds, and it was great that the rooms were so roomy – it allowed them to really have fun and relax at the same time.

What I think really makes this hotel family friendly, is the fourth floor facilities. I had talked to the kids a little bit about the hotel and briefly mentioned that they had a very special fourth floor, so after a lovely dinner out, we checked it out.

The Marriott’s fourth floor, is a mecca for kids – it boasts a swimming pool area, a game room with air hockey, a pool table, an Xbox 360, Wii consoles, and Foosball. Also, there’s a kid’s room with an Xbox 360 and Wii consoles and free WiFi, an indoor tree house, mini-putt and floor hockey.  The rooms were clean and bright and my kids had to be dragged out of there whenever we stopped by. I cannot tell you how many times my kids wanted to go to the fourth floor – they loved it that much. It is a great addition to the hotel, and makes it a wonderful stay for families.

Saturday morning we headed down to SPIN for breakfast. The breakfast buffet was pretty much what you would expect at any hotel – hot choices like eggs, cereals, fruits, etc. However, the server then came to our table and asked if we wanted eggs to order – I ordered an omelet and it was delish, and was definitely an appreciated option. After breakfast, we headed out for a LONG, hot day of shopping and sightseeing with the kids. The hotel is an easy ten minute walk to everything we wanted to go to, although on the way back, with very tired kids, it may have felt like an hour. We came back to our room and it was clean and lovely, and they had even perched my 4yo’s stuffed kitten on the top of the pillows in her bed which thrilled her to no end.

Saturday night, there was a small hiccup in our plans when the four year old came down with a fever and was vomiting. In the morning, I called down and asked if we could get some dry toast and a banana for her, and promptly received some toast, banana, cheese and crackers. Both kids climbed into bed, and experienced breakfast in bed for the first time. Thankfully the little one was in good spirits and was feeling much better, and requested that breakfast in bed become a regular thing at home. We decided to order room service instead of going to the restaurant – which was a lovely treat with kids. While we waited, the husband made himself a coffee with the Keurig (yes every room has one), and I had a shower using the Bath & Body Works products the hotel offers. I thought that was a great touch too. Room service arrived twenty minutes later, and it was a beautiful spread – pancakes, omelet, eggs benny and French toast. I cannot lie – the food was AMAZING. My husband, who LOVES eating breakfast, was beyond impressed.

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So what’s the verdict?

We had a fantastic time in a beautiful hotel with amazing service. Everyone we ran into was friendly and helpful and made our stay even better. The kids loved the special areas dedicated to them, and Mommy loved the wi-fi connection, the proximity to Starbucks, the beds and the views. Of course, we know how Daddy felt about breakfast.

Without question, I would stay at the Marriott again, and will plan to stay there from now on whenever we’re in Ottawa. Thank you to the Ottawa Marriott for the wonderful weekend away.

 

Maria aka BOREDMommy

Maria Stanley is a book obsessed, stay at home mom of two. Find her at her personal blog, BORED Mommy and on Twitter.

 

 

by Kelli Catana

Well here we are – just over a week into summer vacation and already chants of “I’m bored” and “I don’t know what to do” are being whined throughout my house.

I have separated kids, sent kids to their rooms, invited playdates over and packed snacks for park trips already and still, my children are at a loss for ways to keep themselves amused!  And did I mention that I have four kids?! That’s a playdate right there in itself!   I would give my right arm for a day to be “bored” – just sayin’.

Let’s look at the last few days. Last week I invited two kids over to play and swim with my kids – fun right?  Well after about two hours, all of them were looking at me because ‘they were bored’ and ‘they had nothing to do’.  This was after swimming, going to the park, and flying kites.  That’s right – my poor, deprived kids.  So sad that there’s never anything for them to do.

Today after going borderline crazy from all the sibling fighting going on in my house, I packed my brood along with water bottles, snacks, juice boxes and towels and brought them to a local splash pad and park so that they could run off their energy.  As soon as we arrived at the park – which was packed with children splashing and playing – all four of my kids proceeded to plunk themselves down on the blanket I brought and announce that they didn’t know what to do.

At a park. That had a splash pad. And a million kids! Sound familiar to anyone?

I don’t know what it is with kids these days.  I feel a million years old for saying this, but really – what is it?  Have we spoiled our kids with so much attention that when we leave them to fend for themselves they have no idea how to keep busy?

When I was young my siblings and I were sent outside and told to return when the street lights came on.  We played and rode our bikes and kept ourselves entertained for hours on end. why are our kids bored more than when we were kids?

My kids get sent outside to play and within three minutes one of them is either crying or coming back inside complaining that they are either too hot/thirsty/have to pee/have nothing to do or all of the above.  When I was a kid once my parents sent us outside to play we knew better than to turn around and complain to our parents.

Are we too soft on our kids? Have we given them too much? Do they rely on us for entertainment to the point that they can’t go outside and keep themselves entertained for longer than 10 minutes?

I know this isn’t just me because I talk to parents every day who are going through the same thing. Granted we live in a different world than when we were kids and we can’t very well send our kids out to play and ask them to return when it gets dark but these kids need to know that they have to start using their imagination.

So do we blame video games, or television that has 24-hours-a-day children’s programming, or are our kids just too damn indulged? I have to tell you that I have uttered the phrase ‘if you come in this house one more time….’ to my kids more times than I’m proud to admit in these first few days of summer vacation.  I’m a work at home and I just don’t have the time or patience to play camp counselor to my kids all summer. I get that I need to take them out for fun things, but there is also time that they need to take the initiative and just play!

So tell me, am I alone here?  How do you get your kids to entertain themselves?

50 Fun Things for Kids to Do Outside

 

Kelli Catana is a wife and mother of four who has a healthy obsession with celebrity gossip and coffee.  You can find her imparting her opinion on all things celebrity at Kellidaisy.com.  Follow her on Twitter.