Mom Admits She Wished She Never Breastfed Her Baby

Australian reality television personality Maddi Wright  shared a very bold statement: she wishes she hadn’t nursed her baby.

Maddi writes on Instagram:

I wish I never breastfed my baby. A strong statement and many would disagree but here’s why… 3 weeks post stopping breastfeeding with my 4 month old I am a completely different person. I’m a better mum and better wife. I have more energy. I actually have gaps where bub is NOT on my body so I get to miss him a little. I have more time for my other son. I am more affectionate towards my husband. I don’t dread going out in public. I enjoy my clothes again as I’m not leaking everywhere or having to wear uncomfortable maternity bras. I’m able to leave the house by myself without getting anxiety. I’m able to go to the gym again. I know I will cop alot of negative comments about this post but I think its important for mums to know that they have choices. There are so many different ways to be a mum. But what many mums forget is that MUM HAS TO BE HAPPY TOO. #breastfeeding #bottlefed #mum #baby

Mom Admits She Wished She Never Breastfed Her Baby
Credit: Instagram/ @maddi_and_lloyd

What do you think? I feel as though yes, every woman should choose for herself if she wants to nurse or bottle feed.

Obviously this woman was quite miserable about the idea of breastfeeding. But it’s not often that you hear a mom admit it!

Now I’m an advocate for breastfeeding. Breast milk is best for baby, and contains all the vitamins and nutrients baby needs in the first six months of life. Breast milk contains antibodies that help baby fight off viruses and bacteria. It also lowers  baby’s risk of having asthma or allergies, and breastfed babies have fewer ear infections, respiratory illnesses, and bouts of diarrhea. It’s usually more easily digested than formula. So breastfed babies are often less constipated and gassy.

Breastfeeding is also good for mama as it burns extra calories, so it can help you lose pregnancy weight faster. It releases the hormone oxytocin, which helps your uterus return to its pre-pregnancy size and may reduce uterine bleeding after birth. Breastfeeding also lowers your risk of breast and ovarian cancer.

The benefits are evident. So I often wonder for those new moms who try nursing, but give up early, have they given breastfeeding a real shot?

Breastfeeding does not come naturally; it takes time, and practice, and often the help and expertise of a lactation consultant.

But not every woman can nurse, and not every woman will want to. Those who choose not to shouldn’t be made to feel bad for their decision, however.

So Maddi’s post caused quite a stir! A few commented, praising her for sharing her view:

“Very brave. I have seen so many frustrated mums and yet they never admit it is because of breastfeeding! Good for you, it doesn’t make you less of a good mother because you did this! Everyone should choose what makes them happy!”

“I wish you were able to enjoy breastfeeding, but if you are not and you are in pain, I think you made the correct call. I respect you for speaking up and put a voice to a lot of mums in your position. I wish people would be more empathetic.”

“Of course you are going to defend formula. You don’t want to admit to yourself breast is best, when it is a known fact. But with that, it is hard and its not for everybody. I wish more people would realize the amazing benefits and bond it creates.”

“I say each to their own but she is making it sounds way worse than it really is. The first two months are more demanding but it just gets easier and easier!!!”

But others weren’t so supportive.

“It’s really not surprising a girl from some reality TV show who now pimps out photos of herself and kids on Instagram for more fame would lack the education and intelligence to continue breastfeeding. Some people really should not have had kids…. Parenting takes sacrifice. It’s not all easy and yes breastfeeding takes sacrifice. Some moms like this girl are clearly not ready to be the best mothers.”

“To breastfeed is a personal decision, but in my opinion a baby is more important than leaking, using maternity bras, going to the gym, being a good wife??? OMG! Is only one year of your life… you have the rest of it to be “normal” again. Anybody can do whatever they want but it is a fact that human milk is the best option for a baby and that the other “things” are less important…”

“Breast feeding is natural. Your fatigue and anxiety may be reasons to stop breast feeding early but certainly are not good reasons to encourage other women to go down your path. I support you in your choice to stop breast feeding. Four months is awesome. You did great. You are probably a wonderful parent. Your post is however irresponsible.”

What do you think?


Husband of Late Wife Tells New Moms Not to Feel Guilty About Not Breastfeeding

Florence Leung went missing in late October, without any explanation. The 32-year-old was suffering from postpartum depression, and her family was concerned about her well-being.

New Westminster, B.C. police launched a search to find the new mother. But tragically on November 16, Leung’s body was found in the waters near Bowen Island.

On Tuesday, her husband, Kim Chen posted an emotional message on the Facebook page dedicated to his wife’s memory, Remembering Mother Florence Leung.

Chen writes that his wife’s death was “the foundation of his life was taken apart, the plans of the future never to realize. Everything needs to be rebuilt.”

I have been living in survival mode: living a day at a time, sometimes an hour at a time – exactly like many people taught me to do.

Living at the moment is truly the only way to go through this at this stage. As the initial shock and emotional numbness slowly subsides, I’m experiencing more flashbacks of memories from our 6.5 years of happiness, and for now these memories tend to trigger pain and intense longing.

Chen urged new mothers who are experiencing low mood or anxiety to please seek help and talk about their feelings. He also suggested that the pressure on new mothers to breastfeed exclusively can be overwhelming.

You are Not alone. You are Not a bad mother. Do not EVER feel bad or guilty about not being able to “exclusively breastfeed”, even though you may feel the pressure to do so based on posters in maternity wards, brochures in prenatal classes, and teachings at breastfeeding classes. Apparently the hospitals are designated “baby-friendly” only if they promote exclusive-breastfeeding. I still remember reading a handout upon Flo’s discharge from hospital with the line “Breast Milk Should Be the Exclusive Food For the Baby for the First Six Months,” I also remember posters on the maternity unit “Breast is Best.” While agreeing to the benefits of breast milk, there NEED [sic] to be an understanding that it is OK to supplement with formula, and that formula is a completely viable option. I will talk more about this in the future.


Chen also shared an article about a young mom who passed away earlier in 2016 from PPD, as her personality seemed so similar to Florence.

According to the Centers for Disease Control, 11 to 20% of women who give birth each year have postpartum depression symptoms.

Do you think the pressure to breastfeed can be a factor in postpartum depression?

The pressure to breastfeed is immense, and often causing more harm than good. New moms feel intense pressure to breastfeed and fear being judged if they bottle-feed their babies.

Research shows that “breast is best” as breast milk contains all the vitamins and nutrients your baby needs in the first six months of life, and packed with disease-fighting substances that protect your baby from illness.

But not all women can breastfeed exclusively for various circumstances including medical reasons, and personal choices. In this case, “fed is best”.

As long as baby is thriving and growing, and mom is also happy and healthy, that’s what matters most.

Can Breast Milk Assess Breast Cancer Risk?

breast milk, breastfeedingBreast milk may eventually be used to assess breast cancer risk.

“It looks as if we can use the cells from breast milk to assess breast cancer risk,” said Dr. Kathleen Arcaro, an associate professor of veterinary and animal sciences at the University of Massachusetts in Amherst.

By screening breast milk for cells that can turn into cancer, researchers believe they can develop a way to warn women if they’re at an increased risk of developing breast cancer later in life. Results from the new study were presented Monday at the American Association for Cancer Research in Orlando.

Milk samples were selected from 271 women, one sample from each breast. The women also underwent a breast biopsy, the most definitive way to tell if a woman has breast cancer.

By evaluating the biopsied and non-biopsied samples, Dr. Arcarao isolated potentially cancerous cells, known as epithelial cells.  These cells line the inside of the breast and are most likely to turn into tumors.

Next, researchers isolated DNA of those cells that are known to play a role in breast cancer. They looked for epigenetic signals on the genes, signals that tell the body to “turn on” these genes.

Among the women diagnosed via biopsy with a tumor in one breast, researchers found a significant increase in epigenetic signals for the gene RASSF1 in the milk from that breast, compared with milk from the breast that wasn’t biopsied.

The researchers believe that signal is significant enough to warrant screening for women. Further studies should analyze changes in other genes, says Arcaro.

A long-term study is underway with 80% of the women in the original study. 

It’s too soon to assess the cancer detection rate associated with breast milk cell examination, Dr. Arcaro said, but research is continuing.