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by Deborah Lowther

Four months ago a friend and I made a commitment to each other that we were going to workout together. Twice a week.  All winter.  OUTSIDE!  Neither of us had any idea what we were in for, if we could actually do it or how much we would both love it!

I won’t pretend its been all sunshine and roses.  In the beginning we were both thrilled to have found a fitness friend to work out with.  However a few weeks in to our winter bike rides, the temperatures and strong wind threatened to challenge us, but we peddled on!

This commitment we made to ourselves and each other has certainly shown us both what we are made of.  Winter is cold, its windy, its dreary, it snows, it freezes, it melts, we are tired, we have kids, we are busy, we are normal!  Some days you just don’t want to put three layers of clothes on knowing your face will freeze while sweat is dripping down your back.

You remember the exhaustion you felt getting up that last hill on the country roads and you’re not sure where the energy will come from to conquer it today.  But our commitment to each other has been stronger than those little voices inside trying to talk us out of heading outside for our Winter Workout.

We have pushed through when we didn’t think we could. We have met regardless of the temperature or wind chill.  We have survived frozen toes, dirty bikes, faulty water bottles, a tiny crash, mud puddles, icy patches and 40km/h winds.  We have seen snow and frozen ground and adjusted our routes by taking to country roads if trails are too icy or pulled on hiking boots if a fresh layer of snow greats us when we wake up on riding days.

We have gotten so much stronger on our bikes – remarking just last week about all the spots we used to stop for a rest, where now we just stop to snap photos of our new animal friends on our trails.  We have been impressed with the challenges we have faced, and thrilled with how awesome we have felt afterwards.

We have learned a lot about each other too.  We are a determined duo – neither one will be the first to cancel our workout date; neither will let the other down!  We are dependable – on time, dressed right, ready to ride, every single week.  We both have our strengths – on flat ground I can move, but on a downhill, that girl whizzes past me!

We’ve had our moments – climbing off our bikes to walk that darn hill we just can’t make it up and nursing sore muscles as our legs adjust to the workouts.

We’ve had our injuries – don’t tangle with tree roots unless both hands are firmly grasping the handlebars (ouch)! We’ve had our laughs – newspaper paparazzi caught one of us ‘unidentified cyclists’ in action! And we have witnessed some of the most spectacularly glorious mornings as we cycle on the roads, by the lake, through the trails, along the creeks, and past the barns in the sunshine, the wind and the snow.

Most of all, we have pride in knowing that we have DONE IT! We have spent four months outside huffing and puffing against the wind, with snow in our face, dirt up our backs and the glow in our cheeks that only an outdoor Winter Workout can give you.  Thank you my friend!

Do you know what are you made of?

 

Deb Lowther is a mother of 3 young daughters who, when not running after the kids, is running in the trails! She blogs about Raising Healthy Kids and ensures her own have fun while eating healthy & staying active.  You can visit her websites to learn more Iron-kids.com and AdultGummies.com

 

CONCEPTION is a romantic comedy that proves it takes more than sex to make a baby!

The film follows nine different couples on the night they conceive.  Looks like a fun and, ahem – interesting film!  Moms, I’m sure you will be able to relate to some of this?  I’m looking forward to seeing it and it has a huge cast.

The hilarious ensemble cast includes Emmy-winner Julie Bowen (“Modern Family”), Sarah Hyland (“Modern Family”), Connie Britton (“Friday Night Lights”), David Arquette (“Never Been Kissed”), Jason Mantzoukas (“The League”), and Alan Tudyk (“Dodgeball”).

The film is written and directed by Josh Stolberg, produced by Rock It Productions and distributed by Tribeca Film.

The hilarity that ensues is balanced against the realities of having a child, and it raises some great discussion points about love, sex, and family.

From a couple fighting the odds of fertility to young teenagers losing their virginity, the film shows that sex can sometimes be more neurotic than erotic.

Here is an EXCLUSIVE clip of the film which is set for release on February 24, 2012.

 

Photo Credit: Noah Rosenthal

I hosted a panel at Social Media Week Toronto on Thursday, February 16.  Chris Young, Casie Stewart and Stephanie Montreuil joined me on the panel as we discussed Social Media Friendships, Anxiety and You.

I started off my little chat talking about what I do and this website and my love for social media.  I discovered a lot of fab bloggers and made some amazing people thanks to Twitter.  Facebook keeps me in touch with people I already know but Twitter is just a whole world of cool people waiting for me to meet… like one big cocktail party.  I can mingle when I want and with whom I desire, and don’t feel bad when I decide to jump into conversations.  The best part is when you pop your head into a conversation, say your two cents, and then back out.  Where else can you do this?

I also chatted about the fact that I have two Twitter accounts – one at @amotherworld and my other @marialianos.  I struggled with having two accounts for a while but then realized not everyone who reads amotherworld.com will want to know about my passion for punk rock and obsession with the paranormal.

I am trying to “build a brand” with amotherworld – oh no!  Those dreadful words… “build a brand”.  Yikes.  Now I actually have to be careful with what I say? PR companies and brands are watching me…

Then the anxiety kicks in.  Do I tweet that?  Maybe I should write that on my personal account?  Did I reveal too much of myself? Should I say that about my kids?

Even when I thought about putting something together a panel during Social Media Week, I became so nervous!  A talk on social media anxiety made me anxious… oh the irony.

Chris Young, Casie Stewart, Stephanie Montreuil and Me

People online will meet me in real life, in real time… no time to think about what I will write or tweet, I’m just out there ready to open my mouth to speak and God help me what words will come out.  Will they like what I have to say?  Will they think I look different than my avatar?  Will they find me similar to my tweets?

Yes – social media anxiety or social media stress.  I think to an extent, everyone has it.  We’re human after all, right?

But when you are only perceived by what you tweet, it gets a little tricky.  People look at your tweets and already make assumptions about who you are.  Without really even knowing you, there is a perception in their mind.  Whether you like it or not, judgments are made in a mere few seconds of seeing someone’s profile.

The twitter avatar, the twitter handle, your short bio and even just one tweet and people have already slapped a label on you.  Some assume that I am a “mommy blogger” when I really don’t consider myself to be.  Call me a writer, a lifestyle blogger instead.

I used to share a lot more when I first joined Twitter – it seems to be a place for people to connect and socialize.  There weren’t any big brands online yet and businesses hadn’t caught on to using twitter as a marketing tool.  Once they started joining, there was a huge shift in the way social media was being used.  It wasn’t just my new Twitter friends who were reading anymore.

That’s the turning point when I started to feel a bit more guarded about how much I share.  I often hear people say, “just be yourself.”  But I don’t think it’s that easy when it comes to building your brand – and that totally depends on who you are and what you do.

My brand is an online lifestyle magazine – I need to keep it professional as well.  Being myself doesn’t mean that I can necessarily write ALL the details about when I’m having a bad day.  We all have those moments of negativity but is Twitter the best place to spill it all out?

Do I really want to tweet out that my husband can be an asshat?  Or my kids are driving me to bang my head against the wall?  Is that keeping it real?  I think it’s simply a matter of choosing what to air to the public.

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It’s a slippery slope because you almost become this ‘online personality’ and it can become quite tricky.  People feel you must be the same person in real life as you are online.  But you can’t always be ‘on’ – all the time can lead to serious exhaustion – social media fatigue.  Being online all the time and being connected can become overwhelming and exhausting.

But we are putting the pressure on ourselves on how to use social media.  YOU get to decide on how much you want to share.

I find sometimes just taking a break from social media will alleviate that anxiety for a little while, then you come back feeling refreshed and ready to get out there again.

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by Lianne Bergeron

I have just arrived home from two hours of ice-skating. The whole country is frozen which means every waterway is skate-able – and I would dare say that there are more waterways than roads here. Sounds pretty decadent doesn’t it? Drop off the kids, put on my skates, then come home and get some work done.  But let me tell you, I wasn’t alone on the ice…

The Dutch don’t think twice about not going to work because there is ice to skate on or it’s a hot sunny day.

Is it decadent? Or is it part of the reason that the Dutch, in general, are more balanced – and therefore happier -than North Americans?

It’s a right to enjoy life here – not a privilege.

So are Dutch mothers the happiest in the world?

The facts:

Most women work part time – it’s a right here to have a full time job and cut back to part time which most do once they’ve had kids.

Many husbands work four days a week and take care of the kids on their “day off”.

There is little emphasis on what you do for a living. It just doesn’t define them.

It’s a small country so parents and family live close by for extra support. In fact, everything is close by.

There is a very good social system, so even if you lose your job you will generally be ok.

Health care, schooling etc. are well taken care of.

There is less pressure to be great (which I struggle with) but it means that Dutch moms aren’t bringing their kids to hockey practice three times a week. Good enough is OK.

Body image is not as intense as in some countries.

Everyone gets a good amount of vacation time every year – read 25 days+ (for 40 hour week) and is expected to use it up.

You can drink wine everywhere (ok – that makes me happy… whether or not it makes Dutch women happy I can’t say). And a good bottle of wine costs about $5.

Everyone has a bike and rides daily – so there is some built in exercise and fresh air in the daily routine.

But the Dutch have a “just deal with it” mentality – they don’t show a lot of emotion, there is not a lot of passion. It’s hard to tell what’s really going on.  Their houses are always very clean and ordered, which drives me nuts (and therefore emphasizes the disaster in our house).

They tolerate things more than accept them. As they work to live rather than live to work, there is not a lot of entrepreneurship or high salaries (but does that make one happy and balanced?). They literally live on top of each other – houses are all attached and there is not a lot of space here.  Most don’t have dryers (I mean really???). And the weather… How can anyone be happy without the sun?

For me, happiness and balance walk hand in hand.  I think that every mother struggles with balance no matter where they live. Working or not, one or four kids – it’s a lot to deal with;  kids’ activities, cooking, caring, giving, organizing and the list goes on… We all try and do it all while also doing the best we can.  However, Dutch mothers do have a lot going for them that makes that balance thing a little easier to achieve.

All in all I would say that women are more balanced here than in North America.  But the happiest?

Add eight months of sunshine and 10,000 km more space and I just might have to agree…

So this all brings up the question: Why do I live here?

I live here because life is more balanced and because of the wine… It’s that simple.

 

Lianne Bergeron is an author and entrepreneur who lives and works near Amsterdam with her Dutch husband and four kids. She’ll share her life abroad without family support, kids that speak Denglish and traditions that aren’t hers. Life with four kids and 10 bikes and her on-going quest to balance it all on her bicycle built for six.  Follow her on Twitter and read more about her books at LiannesQuickGuide.com.

What’s in style for spring 2012?

The latest spring 2012 trends are a mix of pretty and flashy.  The pretty styles have Chanel-inspired blazers, feminine skirts, soft pastels, mint/seafoam greens and beautiful florals while the more flashy styles we’re seeing this spring are geometric and tribal patterns,  neon colours and even sport couture.

I’m even seeing – brace yourselves – crop tops again!  Noooooo!  That style should never, ever be allowed again as far as I’m concerned!  Sport couture also made the runway… sporty dresses?  Not sure I like this trend.

Although one inspiration for spring 2012 fashion comes from the roaring 20s, it seems many designers are looking to the 1980s – we’re seeing neon colours, colour-blocking, one-shoulder tops and dresses and even peplum!  Peplum brings me back to the days when TV shows like Dynasty and Dallas were all the rage (Knots Landing not so much for me).

Here are some of my favourite (and affordable!) spring 2012 fashion:

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Maritime of Your Life Dress $84.99 modcloth.com

 

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Chanel inspired Blazer $59.95 H&M

 

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Bright Red Capris Red capris, Joe Fresh

 

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Striped Marine Dress, $29 Joe Fresh

 

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Metallic sweater, $9.95 H&M

 

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Colour Blocking: Jessica Simpson Wish – Blue Iris Combo $99 Heels.com

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Tangerine One-Shoulder Dress $118 BCBGeneration

 

 

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Neon Women’s Raglan Pointelle-Knit Pullovers in Sunkissed Lime  $32.94  Old Navy

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Floral Maxi Anjoy Pear Dress, Old Navy $49.94

 

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Tribal Embellished Tribal Clutch $27  forever21.com

 

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Geometric Three Quarter sleeve V-Neck Shirt Dress  $241.49  DKNY

 

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Navy V neck peplum dress $49.00  dorothyperkins.com

 

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Mint Wrap Waist Pintuck Dress $57 missselfridge.com

 

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One Shoulder Draped Shoulder Top $88 BCBGeneration

 

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Denim Trench $69, Joe Fresh

 

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Metallic pleat mini $56 ustopshop.com

 

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Blu Moon Summer Lovin’ Short Dress in Red Tribal   $169.00  shopthetrendboutique.com

 

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Women’s Ruffled Button-Front Yellow Dot  $22.94  Old Navy

 

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Floral A-line skirt $49.99 modcloth.com

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Turquoise Flutter-sleeve dress $108.00 BCBGeneration

 

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White Slim Twill Pant $39 Joe Fresh

 

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Colour Block Swishing Gears Dress $39.99  Modcloth

If you live online like I do, then you know that the latest popular social media site addiction is Pinterest.

What is Pinterest?

Pinterest is a virtual pinboard.  Back in the day, I used to tear out pages from glossy magazines and put in them in my “if ever” pile… If I had time, I would spend lazy Saturday afternoons organizing those ripped out pages into binders, slip them into some plastic covers and look at them.

For example, how did I want my future dream house to look like?  What was my favourite outfit?

Having these pictures in one spot was a way for me to organize and remember what I wanted.  Like a designer having a scrap book, or photographer having a portfolio, but now my favourite images could be saved and viewed online.

Pinterest lets you organize and share all the beautiful things you find on the web. People use pinboards to plan their weddings, decorate their homes, and organize their favorite recipes.

Best of all, you can browse pinboards created by other people. Browsing pinboards is a fun way to discover new things and get inspiration from people who share your interests.

This new site is on fire right now!  Why do people love it so much?  Pinterest is Pretty – you enter the lovely world of beautiful images and almost escape the daily routine.

Organizing your favourite things by category, going back and looking at them, dreaming of that designer dress or vacation spot… I can see this being almost dangerous.

Although the escapism is wonderful, how many of these “things” can we really have?  We can all hope and dream for bigger things – but is it almost putting us into the danger of the unattainable, the feeling of “never-being-satisfied” and “always wanting more” that is the nature of the human beast.

I could go on and on analyzing it all but I’ll just leave it at that.  If you enjoy Pinterest for what it is (and a time suck it surely can become), it can be a pretty fun way of organizing and sharing things you love.

We knew it wouldn’t be long before somehow marketers found a way to use Pinterest for brand and business.  The lovely organic nature of Pinterest we only had the pleasure of knowing for a few short  months will soon be populated by brands… which will likely take away some of the site’s allure and charm.

I’m also wondering what happens when people repost Pinterest images on their own website without giving proper credit… would this be considered copyright infringement?   Here is a great article I found online called Pinterest: Good or Bad for Bloggers and another on possible copyright theft.

What are your thoughts on Pinterest?

I’ve never had the absolute pleasure of seeing City and Colour live in concert – until now.

I’m a huge Dallas Green fan. Love love love this man’s voice – it speaks to my soul, as cheesy as that sounds.

I’m a huge Alexisonfire fan as well, of which Dallas was a member before they broke up (likely due to City and Colour’s success and his lack of time to do both)… I was shocked and saddened by the news really.  I know, get a life right?

City and Colour brought their live show to Massey Hall for two sold out shows, on February 10 and 11, 2012.  Both shows sold out pretty quickly – I was lucky to purchase even one ticket but I was determined to go, even alone.

Then the luckiest thing happened; I got an email from the venue telling me that they were upgrading my ticket!  I ended up in third row centre, and the aisle seat.

Could I have been any happier?!?  Dallas stood before me and sang his lovely heart out with passion and soul.  Throughout the evening, I had to close my eyes for a few seconds to enjoy the sound of his beautiful voice and the amazing acoustics of Massey Hall.

Dallas Green’s voice and music is simply intoxicating.

It was truly a dream.

Had no idea I wasn’t allowed to record any of the live performance until I was stopped, but managed to get a little bit of one of my favourite songs from the new album, Little Hell, called “Weightless”:

 

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by Christy Laverty

There is no doubt we all love our children. I have loved my girls since they moment I saw their sweet little faces. I bet you feel the same.

But life gets busy and we can often get caught up in the chaos of the day, forget to slow down and actually show and tell our kids how much we love them. We rush to get ready in the morning, hustling the kids out the door for school, then rush off to work, rush to get the kids after school.  Then we rush home, rush them to dance or soccer, rush to make dinner and then, of course, there is the rush to get the kids to bed at night.

I am exhausted just listing all the things we rush to do every day! If you are anything like me, there are days when I spend too much time rushing around and not enough time just enjoying the moments of the day, the magic of life, with my family, especially with my kids.

If you take a few minutes every day you can enrich your life and the lives of your children. Truly, there are just a few things you can do to make sure you show your children just how much you love them, and in turn you will feel truly blessed and grateful for the joys of your family… after all isn’t that what life is all about?

Here are 5 ways to stop and enjoy your kids:

 1.             Hugs

It is a simple thing but just think about how great it feels when you get a great big hug from your children. There is something special about the feeling of physical affection. It is all about the importance of touch. Research shows every day physical contact is valuable and a critical component of healthy development for all children (and adults). Touch reduces stress and supports brain development.  So take a moment and hug someone you love. Hug your kids before they start their day, it will set a positive tone for the day for you and your children.

2.             Say I Love You.

I think we don’t say that phrase often enough. Life is too short not to tell the people we love how we feel. Often people say, “Oh my kids know I love them!”

True, but there is nothing better than hearing it. Children should hear it from our own lips. Tell them you love them every day!

3.             Give Them A Cuddle

This may take a few extra minutes but it is so worth it. And, you know, when you think about it there is always time for a cuddle. Remember those days when your kids were  babies or toddlers (or maybe they still are)  and you would curl up on the couch together? Or how about first thing in the morning when your kids would sneak into bed with you?

Even when your kids get a bit older you should make time to cuddle. Again it all comes down to the benefits of positive physical contact. So take a few minutes to cuddle in the morning before you all start your day. Just sneak into bed with your kids. Or at night before bed, why not snuggle up together to read a book?

4.             Love Letters

This one is fun and only takes a few minutes. If your kids eat lunch at school then just slip a sweet, short note in their lunch bag. A simple I LOVE YOU goes a long way. They will know you were thinking of them.

5.             Talk and Listen.

I like this one because I often feel like I am talking AT my kids. There are often things I want my kids to do (or not do) and in the business of the day I can forget to stop and actually listen to what my girls are saying to me. They have things to say.

If you stop and listen, you show your children that you care about what they have to say, you respect their voice and show them you are truly interested in their lives. It is all about showing them you love everything about who they are.

 

Christy LavertyChristy Laverty is a mother and an editor for a Toronto all news radio station. She also does freelance writing for several parenting magazines. Visit Christy’s blog where she updates the trials, tribulations, and fun of being mom of two beautiful girls.

by Shannon Lintott

**Richard Ouzounian from the Toronto Star gave it 3.5/4 stars**

**The Globe and Mail’s J. Kelly Nestruck –  3 out of 4 stars**

Directed by Piper Laurie, written and starring Jim Brochu, Zero Hour is not only the story of one American artist who suffered set backs at every turn, but about a time when art and artist were being questioned at every turn by the government and the nation because of McCarthyism and the Hollywood Blacklist.

From a painter, to a comedian and Broadway to the big screen, Zero Mostel was an artist by every standard and Jim Brochu filled every corner of this character. He was the painter, he was the comedian and he was, most importantly, the story teller. He was able to captivate and humour the audience while creating the rollercoaster ride of a story that was Zero’s life on stage.

I enjoyed the simple nature of the set and found it was the perfect backdrop to the script as this is really all about the words and not about the setting.

The mix of history and personal drama was the key into giving the audience a bird’s eye view of the life Zero Mostel lived. While some of the jokes and reference went far over my head, either due to age or lack of knowledge, I found that when I left the theatre that I had gained a better understanding of what artists like Charlie Chaplin, Orson Welles, Arthur Miller and Zero Mostel had to go through in order to do what they loved most ­– art.

 

Win a pair of tickets to the show which runs at the Bathurst Street Theatre in Toronto until March 11, 2012.  Contest closes February 23, 2012.

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Shannon Lintott

Shannon Lintott works in production at a professional theatre company in Toronto. A recent graduate of the Ryerson Performance Production BFA program, she spends her free time exploring the internet, taking photographs, reading or writing on one of her numerous and addictive websites. The majority of her time is spent watching movies and reviewing them on her movie review blog I Like (good) Movies. Follow Shannon on Twitter.

If you haven’t heard of this story yet, get some tissue handy.

Mark Aulger and his wife were expecting their fifth child in January.  But as soon as the new year began,  Aulger was admitted to the hospital, unable to breathe.

After undergoing eight months of chemotherapy, doctors told him that his lungs were destroyed.  He was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis.

But on January 16th, the Aulger family of The Colony, Texas,  received the most devastating news.  Mark had one week left to live.

On January 18, Mark told his wife Diane that he wanted to see the baby before he died.  Diane was induced two weeks early so her dying husband could hold their baby in his arms.

Their daughter Savannah was born while Mark laid in his hospital bed close to her. Just as he wished, Mark held his daughter in his arms.  The next day, Mark slipped into a coma.

On January 23rd, with his family by his side, Mark Aulger passed away.

“The kids go on as if dad is really still here,” Diane Aulger told ABC News.

“Mark was a very funny guy. My kids still tell jokes how they would when he was around. He would have been a wonderful daddy to Savannah.”

Our thoughts and prayers go out to Diane and her family.