by Bruno LoGreco

It’s that time of year again –  when we reflect upon the past year to measure our accomplishments. Did we achieve what we said we would do? And for most of us, 97% in fact, the answer is NO! When we look back to see what we did accomplish we see everything that we did not accomplish.

If you’re like most people, setting goals at this time of year has little to do with you expressing yourself; doing the things that are important to you. And more to do with what you think you ‘should’ do.

The most common resolution women make at this time of year is to eat and exercise regularly. It’s another way of saying, “I should lose weight.” According to Time Magazine, 60% of gym memberships go unused in January and attendance is back to normal come February.

Another common new year’s resolution women make is to complete all of those unfinished tasks on the to-do-list; repairs, writing and blogging ideas, starting a small business, getting involved with the community, etc. All of the tasks that make you depressed when you realize you didn’t complete a single thing on the list.

So why does it happen? Why do you make New Year resolutions with excitement but then fail to achieve them? The answer is very simple. You simply do not value what it is you think you ‘should’ do.

This year I’d like for you to consider making new year’s resolutions despite all of the controversy that is going on that suggest that its a waist of time to set resolutions. This year you’re going to use a simple 3-step process when making New Year’s Goals.

Step 1

First you’re going to identify your most prominent strengths. These are skills you use every day to solve problems. More often than not your natural strengths are not as obvious to you as it would be for a mentor or life coach.

Step 2

Next, you need to figure out what you value most. These are characteristics about yourself that define the choices you make. More often than not your value system is unconscious and automatic. Spend some time first to discover your core values.

Step 3

Lastly, you must know your needs. Your needs motivate you to achieve your goals. If you set goals that do not satisfy your needs, you’re not likely to succeed.

So this year when setting your goals for the new  year, validate your goals by asking yourself these three questions:

1. What natural strengths will I be using?
2. What values will I be expressing?
3. And, does this goal satisfy my needs?

 

Cheers to a fulfilling new year!

 

 

Bruno LoGreco is the creator of the Tri-Commitment Success (TCS), a complete ‘How to’ SYSTEM for achieving happiness, fulfillment, and personal potential, and is a master life coach and mentor to professional women, professional engineers, and entrepreneurs.