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Every Parent Should Read The Body Image Survival Guide for Parents (Giveaway)

While I was reading The Body Image Survival Guide for Parents, I also read a few articles online that poked fun at women for their weight. One was about the witty and talented Lena Denham of  the hit HBO show, “Girls”.  Not long ago, shock jock Howard Stern referred to Dunham as “a little fat girl who kinda looks like Jonah Hill, and she keeps taking her clothes off, and it kind of feels like rape.”

So an average girl can’t be the star of a show? This is exactly the problem with society today – body image is so skewed. A woman can’t be an average size and be on television without being called fat. Later on when Stern interviewed Dunham, he apologized to her saying he loved her and thinks she’s “terrific.”

It took Marci Warhaft-Nadler 20 years to figure out her own body image issues but she knows now that “self-worth should not be measured in pounds.”  She spent 25 years in the fitness industry telling people how to take care of their bodies while secretly abusing her own.

Today, she is a body image specialist and wrote a new book to educate parents of body image issues in our children. The Body Image Survival Guide for Parents is written with a goal to tear down the harmful myths surrounding beauty and fitness and empower kids to love and appreciate themselves for who they are.

 the body image survival guide

81% of 10-year-olds are afraid of getting fat.

The #1 wish of girls 11-17 is to lose weight.

These statistics are shocking and worrisome. In the book, Marci writes that little girls learn so much from their own mothers so it’s crucial that they see their moms being accepting and kind of themselves.

Marci talks about body image from as young as three years old up until the teen years – it’s disturbing how much society, media and toys can influence the way we look at ourselves and how much emphasis is placed on how we look. Images are all around us, from television, movies, music, magazines – we can’t escape what society says our bodies should look like.

But wait – it’s not only girls that have body image issues. Marci touches upon body issues in BOYS – yes boys… heroes like Superman and GI Joe suddenly have huge muscles. How can boys try to achieve that? Look at the beloved Superman and how he looked when first created, and how he appears today:

superman then and ow

Marci offers helpful suggestions in the book such as role modeling healthy body image behaviour, image proofing the home and even making the home a “talk-free fat zone”. She offers tips on how to teach your kids to love themselves and to look up to “normal” role models, how to compliment children on their actions – not their looks.

Here’s one game in Marci’s book that she suggests parents can play with their kids – the “I am” alphabet game where you can each find positive characteristics – none on physical appearance – to describe yourselves. For example, A is for Adorable, B is for Bright, etc.

Great questions and the right answers, Marci’s book is backed by stats, studies and real-life experiences and quotes from kids and parents. Marci offers practical tips and good advice on answering the difficult questions that children may ask parents – the most important tip? Conversations with children should never be about weight but should focus on health.

Marci’s book is a real eye-opener – every parent should read it, parents of girls AND boys.

The book will be officially released March 15 (through Amazon.com and Amazon.ca) but you can purchase now through at FitvsFiction.com.

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Not Skinny Enough: Fit vs. Fiction

by Marci Warhaft-Nadler

I know what it’s like to look at myself in the mirror and hate what I see. I know what it’s like to never feel good enough, smart enough or pretty enough.

I know what it’s like to think that if I could only lose weight my life would be perfect and I know what it’s like to lose the weight only to find out that I’ll never feel skinny ENOUGH.

But I also know what it’s like to find recovery and regain control of my body and my life. I know how it feels to feel comfortable in my own skin and like myself from the inside out. I know what freedom feels like and I’ll never go back.

I lost over 20 years of my life to body image and eating disorder issues and was one of the lucky few to find recovery.  As a fitness professional for 25 years, I had become frustrated with how our society confuses BEING fit with just LOOKING fit.  There is a difference.

As a mother, it angered me to hear children as young as seven years old berating themselves over the size of their jeabs and being bullied for their body types. As a recovering anorexic/compulsive overeater, my heart broke for every child on the verge of a life consumed with food and weight obsession. I felt an intense need to do something to help.

Three years ago, I created the “Fit vs Fiction” workshop for kids and parents that I bring to schools, camps, parent groups etc.  It’s an interactive presentation that gets people talking about the pressures they feel to live up to society’s unrealistic expectations about beauty.  I use images, games and true life experiences to break down the myths related to the beauty,fitness and diet industries.

By telling my story, I give kids a safe place to share their own. The truth isn’t always pretty, but there’s beauty in having the courage to share it when it can help others.

In the last few months, I have been hearing from more and more parents that their young children are showing clear signs of negative body image and are seeing a drop in their self-esteem. Once again, I felt the need to take a stand.

The Fit vs Fiction Body Image Awareness Campaign was designed with the goal of bringing attention to the fact that our kids need help NOW.  I’m constantly amazed at what the kids I meet share with me about the risks their willing to take to get the bodies they think they should have.

I’m hoping to get my posters seen by as many people as I can because nothing will change unless we change it.

Marci Warhaft-Nadler is the mother of 2 very active tween boys and has spent the last few years bringing her Fit vs Fiction workshop to schools in an effort to change the way kids treat and feel about themselves.In sharing her story of a lifelong battle and ultimate recovery from Body image issues, she gives kids a safe place to share their own. While no longer obsessed with food, she can’t however say the same thing about tattoos. Follow Marci on Twitter.