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Deflate the Elephant and the Cocktail Deeva present the 9th Hole Mocktail just in time for summer long weekend entertaining!

Summer isn’t complete without outdoor entertaining, barbeques, boating and having guests over to our backyards and cottages. But, being a “host with the most” is more than throwing a great party.  It’s also about making sure everyone has a safe and enjoyable time.

Deflate the Elephant, LCBO’s social responsibility campaign, urges Ontarians to speak up to help prevent someone from drinking and driving.

“We encourage everyone to have a safe summer season by drinking responsibly and to never drink and drive or boat,” says LCBO President and CEO Bob Peter.

“We can help hosts plan ahead and entertain safely by offering responsible hosting advice through our store staff and online tools.”

Visit the Deflate the Elephant website to download responsible hosting tips, entertaining checklists and other Mocktail recipes and like them on Facebook!

Here’s a delicious, alcohol-free Mocktail for Victoria Day celebrations in a short video featuring none other than Cocktail Deeva Dee Brun.

9th Hole Recipe

Fill Tall glass with ice and add

1 ½ ounce acai juice

4 oz lemonade

Stir to mix and garnish with a cherry.

Cheers!

 

Photos: DeflateTheElephant.com

A new study shows that beauty cosmetics may not be as safe as you think.

A Toronto-based environmental group has tested dozens of cosmetics products commonly used by Canadians and found virtually all of them were contaminated with heavy metals.

Environmental Defence released a study Monday that shows Canadian consumers can’t assume their cosmetics products are safe, even if they read lists of ingredients carefully.

“Canadians deserve to know what is in their cosmetics,” said Rick Smith, executive director of Environmental Defence.

“Given the choice, we think most consumers would not put arsenic or lead on their lips and faces.”

No kidding!  Six women were asked to name five products they use on a daily basis.  Items tested included foundation, concealer, blush, bronzer, eyeliners, eyeshadow, lipstick and lip gloss.

Researchers then tested these products as well as others in a lab for the presence of arsenic, cadmium, lead, mercury, beryllium, selenium, thallium and nickel.

Lead was detected in 96% of the products, arsenic in 20% and cadmium in 51%.

“The concern is not just that heavy metals are in our makeup, but exposure to these toxins through the products we apply to our skin, in the air we breathe and in our water and food supply can all add up and accumulate in your body,” Mr. Smith said.

Heavy metals can build up in the body over time, the study notes, and are linked to a variety of health problems, from headaches to serious disorders and even cancer.

Naturally though, some metals can show up in makeup unintentionally. But all these heavy metals, except for nickel, are banned from being intentionally added to cosmetics in Canada because of negative health effects.

The highest levels of arsenic (70 parts per million), cadmium (3 ppm), and lead (110 ppm) were all found in lip glosses, which are easily ingested because they are worn on the lips.

Canadians spend an estimated $5.3-billion per year on cosmetics, according to Health Canada, and the average Canadian woman uses 12 products, containing a total of 168 unique ingredients, every day.

This new research will hopefully prompt the federal government to strengthen its regulations on cosmetics, so that manufacturers are required to disclose all intentional ingredients.

Visit www.environmentaldefence.ca  or www.safecosmetics.org for more information.

What makes a mom “hot”?  Her personality? Style? Humour? The fact that she can be a mom but still take care of herself?  HOT is a state of mind!

Our Hottest Moms Contest has been narrowed down to four contestants.  Now, they need your vote!  

To vote, please leave a comment saying, “I vote for ______”!    You may only vote once!  Please base your vote on photo AND the essay because being a hot mom is not just about looks!

Those who vote will be entered to win an amotherworld SUR-PRIZE pack of goodies!   (voting ends May 24, 2011)

The First Place winner will be the face of our Hottest Moms Facebook page and our Hot Moms page on www.amotherworld.com.

We have fabulous prizes for the Hottest Moms Facebook Photo Contest winners from Passion Parties, courtesy of Natalie Hjelsvold, Sensuality Coach and Romance Therapist!

Find your inner diva and set her free with lotions, potions and toys! Every woman should laugh in the bedroom and enjoy intimacy to its fullest, with or without a partner.

Here are FOUR FINALISTS!

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Christy Turlington Burns was in Toronto Friday for the Canadian screening of her directorial debut of “No Woman, No Cry”.

The documentary film begins with Turlington Burns delivering her first child, a baby girl, with a midwife. But an hour after baby Grace’s birth in 2003, the placenta had not yet emerged which put her in serious danger.

The midwife and an obstetrician had to remove it from the wall of her uterus began to hemorrhage.  Luckily, Burns survived the ordeal.

“I was fortunate to have survived the complication…but not everyone is.”

When Christy visited a village in El Salvador, where few women received adequate postpartum care, she realized she’d likely have died if she had given birth there.

“That was when I had my ‘aha’ moment, when I realized that this was going to be my cause,” said the former supermodel and mom.

No Woman No Cry brings light to the staggering statistics:  a woman dies every 90 seconds from complications of pregnancy. More than 500,000 women die each year during childbirth. Ninety percent of these deaths are preventable.

Turlington Burns does a wonderful job in showing the viewer the gripping personal stories of various women around the world who have dealt with maternal health issues.

I hope that by bringing people together through the universal experience of birth, we can help create a mainstream maternal health movement that ensures the lives and well-being of mothers worldwide, for generations to come,” she said.

As Turlington Burns narrates, the documentary film begins with footage of her own birth experience, filmed by her husband director Ed Burns.  She takes us across the globe to Tanzania where we meet a woman who is overdue in her pregnancy and must walk eight kilometres to a health clinic while she’s in labour.  She hasn’t eaten and can’t afford transportation to the nearest hospital.

The film moves to Bangladesh, where a health worker tries to encourage a young mother to give birth in hospital rather than at home, which is the norm in the country.  Turlington Burns also covers the surprising statistics back in the United States, where one in five women of reproductive age who don’t have health insurance.

A U.S. father shares his painful story about losing his wife who bled to death from an amniotic fluid embolism.  We visit a post-abortion care ward in Guatemala, where a doctor talks about her frustration in her country’s cultural beliefs that don’t allow women to practice birth control.

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Dr. Peter Singer, Christy Turlington Burns, Mary Tidlund and Karlee Silver (Photo: TNy Photography)

Dr. Peter Singer, chief executive officer of Grand Challenges Canada, invited Turlington Burns to showcase her film in Toronto.  Grand Challenges Canada is a bold new approach to foreign aid that strives to transform global health through Integrated Innovation, and is hosted by the McLaughlin-Rotman Centre for Global Health.

“All moms want the same thing in life – to educate your kids and feed your kids.  If you can’t do that, you feel like a failure as a mom,” Turlington Burns said in a panel discussion after the film screening at the TIFF Bell Lightbox in Toronto.

Also on the panel were Mary Tidlund, The Mary A. Tidlund Charitable Foundation and Karlee Silver and McLaughlin-Rotman Centre for Global Health and Grand Challenges Canada. 

Dr. Peter Singer, Christy Turlington Burns, Mary Tidlund and Karlee Silver


“No Woman, No Cry”debuted on Oprah’s new network, OWN on May 7, 2011 in the U.S.  It will be a part of the OWN: The Oprah Winfrey Network Canada Documentary Club and will air on Sunday, May 22 at 7 p.m. ET in Canada.

How can YOU help?  For more information, visit www.EveryMotherCounts.org.

Photos: TNy Photography

by Amanda Goetz

Patio weather is finally here! Halle-freakin-lujah! I don’t know about your house, but we’ve been craving warmer weather like Lindsay Lohan craves bad press. The other day we pulled out all the patio furniture and outdoor kid’s toys and I welcomed back the season that makes my yard look like a poorly organized rummage sale. The weather was so great we had a spontaneous barbeque lunch on the patio. Nothing special, just hot dogs, crudité and some corn on the cob, but oh my jeebus that was a tasty lunch! I know hot dogs are all bad for you and stuff, and who the heck knows what’s in them, but you slap one of those suckers on a grill or roast one over a campfire and I’m your new best friend. After we cleaned up I couldn’t help feeling like our little lunch al fresco was missing something (besides a slip’n’slide and a yard full of our friends), then it dawned on me… dessert!

I had some cupcakes in the kitchen, and we have loads of ice cream in the freezer, but I was craving something light and springy (and quite frankly boozey cause the kids were all hopped up on fresh air and were loud!). I hit the recipe book cupboard in my kitchen, pulled out a bunch of magazines and cookbooks, piled them on the patio table and started flagging summer recipes I want to try with my little 3M stickies. When I got to this recipe I stopped and went to check if I had everything I needed to make them right then and there. The only thing I was missing was Rum (so bizarre, I have no idea where that bottle got to…) so a quick trip to the Liquor Store the next morning (I was enjoying the patio way too much to head out that afternoon) and I was in business!

This bar tastes just like a mojito. It has the texture of lemon meringue pie (minus the meringue) and was super easy to make. It would be great to take to a barbeque or picnic, who doesn’t like the person that says “Hey everyone, I brought Mojito Bars!”?

I’m looking forward to a lonnnng, hot summer filled with meals outside… and if a couple of cocktails happen to be poured for me I wouldn’t complain. Bring on summer!

Mojito Bars taken from Betty Crocker’s It’s Summer magazine

3 tablespoons light rum or 1 1/2 teaspoons rum extract plus 3 tablespoons water

16 fresh mint leaves, chopped

3/4 cup butter or margarine, softened

1/2 cup powdered sugar

2 cups all-purpose flour

4 eggs

1 1/2 cups granulated sugar

1/4 teaspoon salt

2 teaspoons grated lime peel

2/3 cup fresh lime juice (from 6 limes)

2 to 3 drops green food color (optional)

2 tablespoons milk

1 tablespoon powdered sugar

1. In a small bowl, combine rum and chopped mint. Set aside.

2. Heat oven to 350° F. Lightly spray 13×9-inch pan with cooking spray.

3. In large bowl, mix butter and 1/2 cup powdered sugar together with electric mixer on medium speed.

4. Mix in 1 3/4 cup of the flour on low speed, just until well combined.

5. Press in pan. Bake 22 to 25 minutes or until set and lightly browned.

6. Meanwhile, in large bowl, mix eggs and sugar, with whisk.

7. Add remaining 1/4 cup flour and salt, mix with whisk until blended. Mix in lime peel, lime juice, food color and milk.

8. Place strainer over medium bowl; pour rum mixture into strainer. Press mixture with back of spoon through strainer to drain liquid from leaves; discard leaves.

9. Mix strained liquid into egg mixture, with whisk until well combined.

10. Pour over partially baked crust. Bake 25 to 27 minutes longer or until center is set.

11. Cool completely, about 1 hour. Sprinkle with powdered sugar.

Store bars, tightly covered, in the refrigerator.

 

Amanda Goetz is a WAHM to 3 kids under the age of 5. Her love of cooking was fostered when she was a preschooler helping her grandma in the kitchen. After a year long stint as a sous chef, she left the industry to continue cooking as a hobby before the stress and politics of a professional kitchen killed her love of cooking. Now she creates delicious dinners and delectable desserts for her family and friends and blogs about it at The Best Mom on the Block.

An 8-year-old California girl is getting botox injections and leg waxing and the procedures are being done by her own mom.

Kerry, who asked that her family’s last name not be used, told Good Morning America that it was actually her daughter, Britney, who wanted to try Botox.

But Botox is a beauty treatment that older women get – not young, growing girls who are too young to understand what Botox really is,

Kerry, a part-time esthetician, has done the treatments to her own face and then started injected her daughter with the anti-wrinkle solution.  Kerry gives Britney the Botox in three locations on her face, five shots in total.  All this for beauty pageants reportedly.

Kerry says that she is not the first to do this; in a competitive industry such as beauty pageants, waxing and botox has become the norm.  Just yesterday, I wrote about young girls being sexualized in magazines and television shows.

What I’d like to know is – WHY?

How would Botox make a difference on a young girl who doesn’t even have any wrinkles yet?  She is a child!  She’s only eight years old.  How detrimental is this doing to her young, growing mind?

“It hurts sometimes,” said Britney. “It makes me nervous. But I get used to it.”

When asked about the waxing, Britney described it as “super super hard”.

The problem isn’t the physical pain – although some would argue that the mother is bordering on criminal behavior – it is the psychological and emotional damage all of this is doing to the child.

This girl is being encouraged by her mother that she needs Botox and waxing in order to be beautiful… I feel sorry for this young girl who will likely spend her life having poor body image issues.

Her mother is supposed to be the parent here, guiding and protecting her daughter.  She should be allowing her daughter to be a kid and enjoy her childhood.   She should be showing her the right way in growing up to be a confident young woman.

But instead, this mother has introduced her child to a life of superficial views, that beauty is plastic and simply not real.

Has our world become that shallow?

by Dianne Preston

I always knew that Shania Twain and I looked alike (insert fits of laughter here) but finding out now how we truly have led parallel lives.

Shania has a book out , “From This Moment On”, and is revealing all the gory details. We’ve always heard how she was brought up dirt poor and her parents died in a car crash when she was little. Thankfully those two facts are not the same – but the violent, scary alcoholic father and the fact that her husband cheated with her best friend… now we’re back on the same track.

You used to be able to set the clocks in our house by when my Dad would pop his first beer – 5:30 am. That would continue throughout the entire day… he was a carpenter and back then lots drank on the job. He would then continue straight to our local Legion (he was wounded in WW2) until the point he could barely walk – then DRIVE home and start a night of terror.

There were lots of laughs and smiles with my siblings and Mom – until we heard the car pull in the driveway. Everyone’s stomachs would sink, we’d all scatter and wait to see just how drunk and belligerent he was. That would tell us whether we could actually stay in the house or have to go hide at a neighbour’s or wander around until he passed out.

This was normal for us – normal to have the police at our house weekly or have to hide somewhere until it was safe to go back in. Despite the alcoholism, I loved my father very much. He passed away 35 years ago.

When I heard Shania and her sister half joking about some of the terrible times with their father… she said you have to laugh about it. I know EXACTLY what she means. Lots of people couldn’t imagine some of the nights we went through or believe it for that matter. I won’t go into the details, there are TOO many, but suffice it to say my poor, saintly Mom took the brunt of it.

When my four siblings and I get together we still talk, and yes awkward laughs, about the stories to this day.

Shania and I have another parallel unfortunately… a husband and a so-called best friend.

This one doesn’t need much explaining. I took MY best friend into my home when her marriage broke down and guess how she repaid me?! It’s taken some years to decide whom I blamed more, but in the end, there was a lot to go around.

We split up in our 25th year of marriage (we were together 30).  We were supposed to be rocking in our chairs on the porch together, forever.  I didn’t expect my life to have so many NEW chapters, but now looking forward to making more.

The highlight of my life is my wonderful son. He was a rock when I needed him. Typical boy, doesn’t usually have the words, but always there with a Mom hug. We have a great, close relationship and I guess because I gave it to him – has my warped sense of humour, so we always have lots of laughs. He also has a girlfriend that I truly love – honest – and can’t wait for Grandchildren someday.

P.S.:  This felt good to write (get off my shoulders) but is now hard for me to put out there.  I have always been a fairly private person and don’t like pity or complaining. But like Shania said, I hope it helps someone to know they aren’t the only ones these things happen to.

Dianne Preston aka @smilenwaven is a proud Mom, first and foremost. Her son inherited his musical passion from her but thankfully he has talent! Dianne has worked in the admin world for most of her working years and now has a home-based typing, errand service. She loves music/concerts, antiques, Scrabble, cooking and being with friends, including her Mom.  She worked as an associate-editor for two small newspapers and was married 25 years, but has since moved on and loving her ‘new life’ at the moment.

No wonder our girls today are growing up too fast and struggling with body image issues.

When you see this:

 

And this:

This Vogue spread was entitled “Cadeaux” (gifts in French).  One of the pages is titled “Beaute” – beauty under 10 years old?

Ok, it’s Vogue – a high fashion, artistic magazine. But this issue (December) featured girls in heavy make-up, high heels, red fingernails and looking way too sensual for their age. Sexuality oozes inappropriately in this spread.

This 15-page spread was crossing the line – portraying girls in this way is dangerous and plain wrong.

I also feel the same way about TLC’s Toddlers and Tiaras. We know beauty pageants exist but why do stage mothers push their children to grow up way before their time?

On a recent episode, a pageant mother forced her terrified five-year-old daughter to get her eyebrows waxed.  She continued to have it done even though the little girl was clearly upset from once having her skin ripped off.

Dressing up girls in women’s clothing and make-up simply sexualizes our youth – which in turn harms our girls (and boys) and today’s society.

Too much emphasis is put on beauty and sexuality which leads girls to develop shame and fear regarding their own bodies.  This, of course, can lead to poor body image, eating disorders, anxiety and depression.

Unfortunately, magazines and television networks keep pushing the envelope – for ratings and subscription sales… bottom line, for money.

By the way, Carine Roitfeld, the editor-in-chief of Vogue in France, is no longer in that role… she stepped down, stating that she tried to do “something every month that is… not politically correct.”

Today is Mother’s Day.

But it’s also the 3rd annual Mother’s Day Rally for Moms’ Mental Health.

Today, 24 open letters to pregnant and new mothers are featured on Postpartum Progress, on the importance of maternal mental health.

All of the letters are written by survivors of and experts on perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, including postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety, as well as others who care about the emotional well-being of moms and moms-to-be.

Nearly 1 million women each year suffer from perinatal mood and anxiety disorders in the United States alone.  In fact, postpartum depression is the most common complication of childbirth, yet only 15% of women are ever treated.

Postpartum Progress and its eponymous non-profit were established to improve awareness of these illnesses and create better services and support for the women who need and deserve them.  It is also the most widely-read blog on postpartum depression and other mental illnesses related to pregnancy and childbirth.

Read the beautiful letters, written by some amazing women and bloggers including Becky Harks from Mommy Wants Vodka, Janice Croze from 5 Minutes for Mom, Casey Mullins from Moosh in Indy, Kristen Howerton from Rage Against the Minivan, Sharon DeVellis from The Yummy Mummy Club…

And me.

I’m very proud to be a part of this Mother’s Day Rally for Moms’ Mental HealthHere is my letter.

Thank you to Katherine Stone of Postpartum Progress for inviting me to contribute.