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No wonder our girls today are growing up too fast and struggling with body image issues.

When you see this:

 

And this:

This Vogue spread was entitled “Cadeaux” (gifts in French).  One of the pages is titled “Beaute” – beauty under 10 years old?

Ok, it’s Vogue – a high fashion, artistic magazine. But this issue (December) featured girls in heavy make-up, high heels, red fingernails and looking way too sensual for their age. Sexuality oozes inappropriately in this spread.

This 15-page spread was crossing the line – portraying girls in this way is dangerous and plain wrong.

I also feel the same way about TLC’s Toddlers and Tiaras. We know beauty pageants exist but why do stage mothers push their children to grow up way before their time?

On a recent episode, a pageant mother forced her terrified five-year-old daughter to get her eyebrows waxed.  She continued to have it done even though the little girl was clearly upset from once having her skin ripped off.

Dressing up girls in women’s clothing and make-up simply sexualizes our youth – which in turn harms our girls (and boys) and today’s society.

Too much emphasis is put on beauty and sexuality which leads girls to develop shame and fear regarding their own bodies.  This, of course, can lead to poor body image, eating disorders, anxiety and depression.

Unfortunately, magazines and television networks keep pushing the envelope – for ratings and subscription sales… bottom line, for money.

By the way, Carine Roitfeld, the editor-in-chief of Vogue in France, is no longer in that role… she stepped down, stating that she tried to do “something every month that is… not politically correct.”

When I started reading “Parents, don’t dress your girls like tramps” written by CNN writer LZ Granderson, I was intrigued.  He published a piece following the recent controversy surrounding Abercrombie’s push up bikini for girls.

Now I understand Granderson’s point of view.  If girls are trying to dress like women, or too provocatively for their age, it is a huge cause for concern.  Companies like Abercrombie and Bratz creating products for girls too young to even start thinking about wearing a bra, is not helping.  And parents have a responsibility to teach their kids what is appropriate and what is not.

But the title itself, using the word “tramp”, didn’t sit well with me to being with.  Let’s not call any girl a tramp.  Also, the way in which he starts his piece, which was likely his intention, Granderson ends up sexualizing this girl himself.

“Her beautiful, long blond hair was braided back a la Bo Derek in the movie “10” (or for the younger set, Christina Aguilera during her “Xtina” phase). Her lips were pink and shiny from the gloss, and her earrings dangled playfully from her lobes.

You can tell she had been vacationing somewhere warm, because you could see her deep tan around her midriff thanks to the halter top and the tight sweatpants that rested just a little low on her waist. The icing on the cake? The word “Juicy” was written on her backside.

Yeah, that 8-year-old girl was something to see all right. … I hope her parents are proud. Their daughter was the sexiest girl in the terminal, and she’s not even in middle school yet.”

Such an elaborate description…was that his point?  That it’s easy for young girls to be viewed as “sexy”?

Or maybe it’s Granderson who is being inappropriate in his perception?  This could have been his intention – to invoke an uncomfortable feeling – that young girls dressing much older for their age cause others to perceive them in an inappropriate way.

Bottom line, we as parents should be mindful of how our children are dressed and the message they send.  It’s our responsibility as parents to protect our kids and ensure that they grow up with a positive self-esteem and body image.  We need to teach our daughters to respect themselves and dress appropriately.

What do you think?