Snot, poo, spit-up – do you share it all – I mean all the disgusting, gross details – about your kids on Facebook, Twitter and any other social media site? Or do you go on and on about your kids on Twitter?

Well blogger Blair Koenig thinks it’s over the top when parents share too much on social media sites and writes about it freely with a hint of snark on her blog called, “STFU, Parents”.

STFU, Parents was ‘born’ in 2009 to “serve as a guide for parents on what NOT to post about their kids as well as a forum for non-parents to vent about their TMI-related frustrations.”

Her tagline?

“You used to be fun. Now you have a baby.”

Ok I agree some people truly over-share about their children and should probably keep certain things private. But her blog seems to come down quite hard on parents. One popular baby site says her blog is “mom-bashing.”

She pokes fun at parents who are guilty of “oversharenting” on social media sites – we all do sometimes, right? I mean, many moms are at home, raising babies and feeling quite isolated – much time is spent on social media sites getting support from online friends.

But do some of us share too much information? Maybe some people do need a lesson in social media “etiquette”?

Koenig accepts submissions from people who have interesting news feeds in their social media and will post them on her STFU blog:

“If you’re being driven crazy by your friends’ baby updates, please feel free to contribute to this blog.”

Oh, did I mention Koenig doesn’t have kids?

All I can say to Ms. Blair Koenig is this – talk to me if/when you have kids.

That is all.

The icing on the cake is that Koenig is coming out with her own book. Yes, she’s the author of the forthcoming book called STFU, Parents: The Jaw-Dropping, Self-Indulgent, and Occasionally Rage-Inducing World of Parent Overshare.

Now why didn’t I think of that?

Do you share too much on social media? Do you think some parents share too much about their kids?

Here is a post I wrote recently about Blogging About Our Kids: How Much Do You Share?

 

 

Author

Maria Lianos-Carbone is the author of “Oh Baby! A Mom’s Self-Care Survival Guide for the First Year”, and publisher of amotherworld.com, a leading lifestyle blog for women.

8 Comments

  1. Hey Maria!
    I do think that some parents do tend to overshare when it comes to their kids, BUT..I think that sometimes it’s the those intimate experiences that parents go through that connect us as parents. It’s easy for someone who doesn’t have children to find the topic boring, but one of the coolest things about social media is that it’s hard to feel that you’re alone when going through a new phase with your kids when you hear similar stories coming from people all over the world. To be honest, I wish I could share MORE about my kids, but since they are on social media themselves and would KILL ME if I shared the funny, infuriating and Amazing things that they’re up to with the world..I have to keep my lips zipped.
    :o)

    • I hear you, Marci. There is a fine line I think! Some parents really are uncensored when it comes to sharing about their kids online. At the same time, some things are better left unsaid. So where do you draw the line? The most important thing parents should remember is – take your child’s privacy into consideration first and foremost. One day they will grow up and be able to read what parents have written!

  2. Hi Maria,

    Just to be clear, the blog is NOT “mom-bashing.” That’s a term BabyCenter inaccurately used in order to get more clicks. The comments of that very same article are (last time I checked) overwhelmingly in favor of my blog, and I was shocked the writer used that term because it’s absolutely not the aim of my site (which has many, many parent readers and submitters).

    Additionally, I don’t see how it can possibly matter whether or not I have kids. Let me be clear: It doesn’t. I don’t “overshare” now, and I won’t then. I’m not a fan of plastering my life all over the internet, and that’s got more to do with my personality than it does with my being or not being a mother. Food bloggers are not all chefs. Movie critics are not all directors. I can have an opinion on parent overshare on social media without being an expert on parenting itself. Those are two different things.

    Thanks,
    Blair

    • Hi Blair, thanks for visiting. No I mentioned another blog called it “mom-bashing” and yes it was BabyCenter. I know you’re not claiming to be an expert on parenting – my point is, I wonder how you will feel about sharing on social media when you DO have children. Your opinion might change – that’s why I said talk to me when you have kids – it IS possible your point of view may be different then. Trust me, EVERYTHING changes when you have children of your own!

      • Right, and I’m just saying please consider how condescending that sounds. You’re presupposing that my entire outlook on sharing information online will change when I have a baby, and I’m saying that it won’t. I love seeing pictures of my friends’ kids in my newsfeed, and as you know the blog is not about SHARING information; it’s about OVERsharing information. So, sure, I might post a cute picture of my (hypothetical, not yet even conceived) baby on Facebook every now and then, but not a picture of the contents of his/her diaper. I don’t think I need to be a parent to know that if you for any reason need to post that information, you can do it on a parenting forum or on a personal blog. And I don’t use social media to “vent” now as it is, and I’ve been working from home all by my lonesome for over four years. I think I’ll just find other ways to communicate that information, if necessary.

        • I don’t see how that’s condescending – all I’m saying is that always is a possibility for one’s viewpoint to change. Not just yours but anyone’s. Hell MY own mind may change about blogging and sharing too much on social media in a few years when my kids are pre-teens. You seem to know who you are and respect your privacy, good for you 🙂

  3. Hey Maria,
    I think it’s inevitable that people will overshare on social media, especially since the second a thought crosses one’s mind, it can be shared around the globe in a matter of clicks! When it comes to our kids, respect and privacy are KEY..their well-being should be top priority. AS far as annoying other people goes..the fact is, we all tend to be extra chatty when it comes to what we’re passionate about. I have friends who post political rant after political rant, others who ramble endlessly about their pets and, my least favorite, people who feel the need to share every mile they run or push up they complete. This is the era of SHARING and we’re all still trying to figure out the boundaries…but the truth is, we tend to have more patience for the subjects we can relate to. Pet owners will understand when someone talks about the new trick their dog’s just mastered for example, where non pet owners could probably not care any less. I don’t think we can slam for people for talking about the things they find interesting, especially when we can just choose to not read about it. :o)

  4. I am REALLY careful with what I post about the kids because we have other things going on with our kids I think oversharing is a risk with social media, blogging and so on but I also think it depends on the kids and the parents a lot. I see parents that post things I personally would not but it is rare that I’m like “ouch that was a bit much”. I try to not post anything embarassing or that could be an embarassment later even if it is uber adorable because I wouldn’t want that out there about me. The oversharing I see is usually NOT child related.

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