by Stacey Farrant
The lyrics from a Frank Sinatra song are those that most little girls cling to as they begin that journey into the world of boys and dating. They go like this: “Fairy tales can come true… they can happen to you”.
When I was young I would love to tuck into bed with my favorite teddy bear and read the classics like Cinderella and Snow White, dreaming that one day my prince would come.
I’m now very much an adult and still believe in the happy ending of a fairytale. However I do not believe that the man of my dreams has to be the proverbial “prince charming”. Does Mr. Right exist?
If we cling to the belief that “Mr. Right” can only be a tall dark and handsome doctor, driving something with a ton of horse power, we will find ourselves missing out on some great adventures of the wonderful world of dating.
If we take a look at the girls in our “history” books, even Snow White shacked up with seven oddly named guys for a while! Fiona backpacked across the country with Shrek, and Belle had to teach Beast how to eat with utensils!
These were beautiful, intelligent women who could see right through the exterior to find love. I have so many friends that will only date if the guy meets particular criteria.
In my short time of dating after my separation, I was open to the idea of dating all sorts of guys. Don’t get me wrong I never lowered my standards but I was just open to the idea of something different.
Dating reminds me of the story of Goldilocks; that girl tried out all those bowls of porridge until she realized which one was “just right”. (I didn’t use the bed metaphor cause my story isn’t taking that direction…..get your heads out of the gutter).
I tried dating the young guys, the mature gentlemen, the fun lovin’ ones, ones that looked great on paper, but My Prince Charming was the one who completely caught me off guard. Had I not been willing to open my mind to the possibility of having a great time on our date, I would have missed out on the best thing to ever happen in my life (besides my kids of course).
If you find yourself in the dating scene for the first time or for a second run, don’t get caught up in the idea of what story books tell you is the “perfect ending”. Write your own book, like those “Choose your own adventures”.
If there was one piece of advice that my Nana gave me that everyone should take to heart it is this: “give ’em all a whirl”! Don’t discount an opportunity to meet your perfect prince.
Stacey Farrant is the single mother of three teenagers, a career woman by day and a self-proclaimed DIVA whenever fighting grime, cooking dinner and running the car pool allows…. all while wearing a 6″ pair of stilettos. Follow her on Twitter.