by Vera Orsini

Sometimes I don’t like Twitter and the whole online scene.  I get sad when I see great friendships.  Not that there is anything wrong with these great friendships – it’s just that I’m not a part of them.

Let me back up for you.  I used to be quite active on Twitter.  I loved, and still love the online world.  The comradery, the laughs, the Twitter parties! (The feeds on those go so fast!)

There was also sadness.  I remember over a year ago when I started reading about @tjzmommy and her son Zack.  I remember when another passed away.

I started a blog, and thought about things I wanted to write about.  Things that would inspire, create laughter, and maybe a few tears.  I wanted to talk more about losing a child, more about caring for an ailing spouse at such a young age, more about smiling through the hard times, and much more about laughing hard through the good.  I think I would have been a pretty good online presence if I do say so myself.

Life happened though.  It happens to all of us in different ways.  You work more.  You have less time to try and reach your passion.

Your time is spent caring for children.  Your time is spent rushing to a specialist appointment for your husband after work when all you want to do is crash.

Your time is playing with your child who you don’t see as much because you have to work outside of the home full time.  Your time is meeting a deadline (oh statistics – how you are the bane of my existence).

Your time is playing catch in the front yard with your child at 8pm to make up for missing their afternoon school recital – even though you have no clue which end of the baseball bat you are supposed to hold. (Side note: sports were never my forte).

Your job is demanding.  Your family needs you.

I stopped my blog.

I don’t begrudge anyone their time online.  It is a great place.  Friends, networking and business opportunities – just to name a few of the benefits.

I think I just wanted to say, if you notice someone tweet you haven’t seen in a while, tweet back.  They may have disappeared due to so many reasons.

Reach out and make them feel a little less isolated in a world where voices sometimes get lost in the timeline.


Vera is a busy mom of one, reluctant owner of “Devil Dog”, and wife of an awesome husband.  He even nominated her in the Walmart Mom of The Year Contest – so he must like her somewhat.  She keeps busy in her full time job working in the mental health sector, chauffeuring the family, and lurking on the internet reading people’s stories of hope, laughter, and wine. She’s @sunvitd when she gets on Twitter.


Maria Lianos-Carbone is the author of “Oh Baby! A Mom’s Self-Care Survival Guide for the First Year”, and publisher of, a leading lifestyle blog for women.


  1. Kathy Moores Reply

    You have no idea how much I miss seeing you in twitter. It’s just not as funny without you there…
    Great post, Vera!

    • Awww- You are making me blush Kathy 😉 Who knows – maybe another post shall come into my brain with a few more of my Veraisms.

  2. Dianne / Smilenwaven Reply

    Very well said… don’t think some prioritize what’s important!

  3. Thank you for your kind words!! Makes me smile to see that people like what I have in my head …. well except for the messed up stuff 😉

  4. Hi Vera, life is demanding no matter what. I have not tweeted you but will find you. Our own family should come first. I see some on twitter feeds all the time I have no idea how that is possible. Some days I am online more than others, but what really matters is that I have time for my kids to make special memories with them and for them. I love the online world though, youn can definetly make great frriendships and some days it can make you feel so alone. T.

  5. Love your comment “you can definitely make great friendships and some days it can make you feel so alone”. It’s interesting to me to hear how the internet makes people feel different things though you are the only one in the room. (*shrugs* maybe it’s because I deal with people’s interactions for my job I find that interesting). Yes – life is demanding no matter what!! I agree with you there!! 🙂 Hopefully we connect on twitter one day 🙂 Have fun making more great memories with the kids 🙂

  6. What a great article, Vera! I feel so blessed to actually know you in real life (even if it isn’t as often as it used to be). I think it’s great that you’re being purposeful about prioritizing “real life” and family as best you can. When you contribute online, it’s always meaningful & I think that more than makes up for the quantity. But whoever decided what that quantity should be, anyway?!

  7. I like that – “quality makes up for quantity”. I like the way your mind works!!

  8. Great post Vera and very well said! I too have had breaks for many reasons. I noticed that sometimes when you do come back you almost feel like your microphone isn’t on, and have felt like if you are not there all the time people forget about you.

    But I also know that my family and myself come first and if my social media “friends” forget me when I am not active for a month it is their loss not mine.

  9. Love your line about the microphone 🙂 I totally agree with you on your last line!! Here’s hoping we ‘bump’ into each other more on twitter when we are on !! 🙂

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