by Stacey Farrant

Would it be considered cyber bullying yourself to enlist in the help of an online dating service?

That whole discussion is still up for debate.  Some swear that that is the lowest form of interpersonal relations, yet others have found their perfect match as easily as ordering a pair of shoes online.

Are we just setting ourselves up for scrutiny or even worse – rejection?

My brother Andrew met his wife through an online site. He is handsome, outgoing and never had an issues meeting women.  One of the reasons that he and many others decided to try the online route was to have the upper hand.

Yes there are lots of single guys and gals out there.  But how do you sort through the good the bad and the ugly without making a career out of serial dating? I guess you can say that these online dating sites rule out the middle man.

I often have to submit a bio of myself for special events or articles that I write. They are a quick overview of my accomplishments, and what kind of footwear I prefer!  After viewing that bio, the reader will also have an opportunity to meet me, hear me speak or continue with my article to get a further outlook on what I am all about or my point of view.  When you create your online profile, it’s your one shot to create that first and lasting impression.

When I interviewed some people about their online experiences, one gal said that the viewers are so flippant, one wrong word and they are on to the next profile without giving you even another thought. Yet others say that it allows you to see how articulate the possible candidate is… if they can’t spell or form a complete sentence they are instantly voted off of the cyber island. I have a hard time tweeting 140 characters some days, I’m not sure just how easily I could sum up what makes me such a great catch!

I can’t say for sure how I feel about online dating because I haven’t tried to use one. I do however think that you can’t knock something until you’ve tried it.  I am at that stage of my life where I can be a very social person who is out and about all the time, so the odds of me being in front of my laptop is more rare than me being face to face with people.

But if you’re a single parent at home with young children, online dating is great way to stay connected while still being able to fold laundry and unload the dishwasher. Perhaps you travel a lot for work and can’t get into the dating scene, I think its a great alternative to being lonely.

As I have said before and will say again, “unless you  put yourself out there you can’t get yourself back out!”

There are plenty of fish – you just have to go fishing!


Stacey Farrant is the single mother of three teenagers, a career woman by day and a self-proclaimed DIVA whenever fighting grime, cooking dinner and running the car pool allows…. all while wearing a 6″ pair of stilettos. Follow her on Twitter.


Maria Lianos-Carbone is the author of “Oh Baby! A Mom’s Self-Care Survival Guide for the First Year”, and publisher of, a leading lifestyle blog for women.

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