Having an active and fulfilling sex life can improve physical health and fitness, reduce stress, and even lead to improved sleep.

While some couples experience decreased libido, there are several ways to enhance the mood and spice things up in the bedroom.

Here are 6 ways to steam up the bedroom, and have more sex with your partner.

6 Ways to Steam up the Bedroom

Try new things in the bedroom

Monotony and routine are common sexual concerns in relationships. In a recent Trojan™ survey, most participants agreed that they are more interested in trying new things to enhance pleasure than they were ten years ago. What does “new things” mean exactly? Oh, I’m sure you can use your imagination… but here are some ideas:

Text or sext each other throughout the day

Dress up in lingerie

Try a new sex toy

Have some fun with role play

Watch an adult movie together

Try a new position


Long foreplay…

Let’s talk more about foreplay.

Have more foreplay

Kissing and hugging before sex is associated with a more pleasurable experience! In a recent Trojan survey, for men, 11-15 minutes of foreplay was most strongly associated with “very pleasurable” sex. For women, 16-20 minutes was the “sweet spot.” So don’t rush into sex. You’ll enjoy it more if you build up the passion and feel more connected to your partner.

6 Ways to Steam up the Bedroom

Lube up

Due to hormonal changes, some women experience dryness which can lead to discomfort during sex. Using a lubricant can enhance your sex life. Innovations in lubricants include Trojan™ Arouses and Releases™ and Arouses and Intensifies™ for a whole new kind of orgasmic experience. Purchase a variety of lubricants, including water-based and silicone and explore what you like best for oral sex, vaginal sex, and manual stimulation.

Get physical

It’s amazing what exercise can to do your overall health and well-being, including mood, stress and even sex life. Cardiovascular exercise before sex gets your blood flowing – and enhanced blood flow can lead to enhanced orgasm. Also, you’ll feel good about yourself for being active – being active increases self-esteem and body image and makes you a more confident sex partner.

Take care of your health

Research shows your sexual health impacts your overall well-being. In a recent Trojan™ survey, 87 per cent of women and men agreed that their sexual health contributes to their overall health and well-being. That means taking extra time for your health and well-being. Don’t feel guilty about taking time for yourself, to exercise, de-stress and meditate. The spa is calling you.

Cuddle a little longer

Though sex is relaxing enough to send us all to a blissful sleep, don’t nod off instead of sharing a few extra moments together. In a recent Trojan™ survey, individuals who reported over 20 minutes of post-sex affectionate behaviour were the most likely to report that their encounter was “very pleasurable.” And this was especially true for men! Cuddle in bed a little bit longer.




Maria Lianos-Carbone is the author of “Oh Baby! A Mom’s Self-Care Survival Guide for the First Year”, and publisher of amotherworld.com, a leading lifestyle blog for women.


  1. having health as part of these types is such a good thing. If you don’t feel good about yourself how do you expect it to go well in the bedroom!

  2. Love all of this! Massages are definitely a good thing, especially when both people have labor intensive jobs and/or stressful jobs.

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