by Melissa B.

As moms we all know that balance is important. I’m not sure exactly when I became blanks mom rather than Melissa but somewhere along the line it happened. When you become a mom everything in your life changes, things are about the baby now and that won’t soon change, it’s easy to forget to take time out for yourself in the midst of the ensuing chaos.

We’re all busy moms whether you are at home or have a 9-to-5, your job never really ends. There is always something to be done at the end of the day and there are no sick days; we don’t get to clock out at the end of the day or even when the kids go to bed. Raising a family and maintaining your unique sense of self requires finesse and skill.

There is nothing wrong with taking time out for mom; in fact it’s important to have time for you. Anything from taking an hour or two to sip tea and read a book to a spa day sans kids will leave you refreshed but many of us just don’t do it. I don’t like leaving my kids unnecessarily for even a few hours and it seems a lot of other moms I know feel the same way but we need mommy time too.

As hard as it is to step away giving yourself some me time will make you a better individual and a better mom too. Life with kids can be stressful but taking a little time out every once in a while to take care of you will help you feel refreshed, recharged and read to tackle diaper duty for another day.

Here are 8 ideas for Mom ME Time:

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1. Take a bubble bath and read a book.  

No reading Dr. Seuss. Draw a bath, give your hubby the baby monitor, turn on your iPod and relax for a while.

2. Visit a day spa.

There is nothing more refreshing than a day spa except maybe a weekend getaway. A day away can leave you refreshed and energized in ways you never imagined.

3. Get a mani-pedi.

A foot massage and pretty nails, what’s not to love.

4. Get your hair done.

It’s a win-win. You get a break and you come back looking gorgeous.

5. Join a book club.

Yes that requires multiple kid free sessions so you have another break to look forward to and some reading that doesn’t include cartoon drawings.

6. Go shopping (not for groceries).

Retail therapy, enough said.

7. Dinner for two.

Dads like to take a break too so have a date night and enjoy each other’s company one on one.

8. Go out for coffee with a friend.

Other moms need time away as much as you do so take another mom along to bask in your kid free glory.

I still don’t like to leave my kids but I have found that some me time makes me feel like a better mom. I come back after just a short amount of time away I have more energy, more patience and new ideas. Take a break and take time for you, you’ll be glad you did and your kids will be happier too.


Melissa is a semi-random and always sarcastic L.A. mom. Addicted to shoes, exclamation points and always doing something new, she is powered by copious amounts of caffeine and always chasing kids; life is fabulously chaotic.
Photo: Fran Flores Dima-ala


Maria Lianos-Carbone is the author of “Oh Baby! A Mom’s Self-Care Survival Guide for the First Year”, and publisher of, a leading lifestyle blog for women.