by an Anonymous lonely stay-at-home mom

I feel very lonely.

I am home all day with my 17 month old daughter.

Most of my friends aren’t married and don’t have kids.

My friends that do have kids work.

I feel like I have no one to talk to about my daily life because they won’t understand. Most of my husband’s friends have kids so they can relate to one another.

My husband’s family treats me like a disease so I am not comfortable talking to any of them. I feel like telling them my feelings would give them something else to look down on me.

I feel like I have totally lost myself since my daughter was born. I love her with all my heart and there is nothing I wouldn’t do to protect her but I need more than this.

I need someone who understands to talk to. I don’t know what to do so that I don’t feel this way anymore.

Am I the only one who feels this way?

Author

Maria Lianos-Carbone is the author of “Oh Baby! A Mom’s Self-Care Survival Guide for the First Year”, and publisher of amotherworld.com, a leading lifestyle blog for women.

6 Comments

  1. I totally understand what you are saying! I was there 7.5 years ago when I had my first baby, hugs to you. First know you are not alone, second get yourself out of the house! As hard as that might be right now, winter and all sometimes means hibernating. I wouldn’t leave the house all winter if I didn’t have to take my kids to school!! Look into programs. The best thing that I could have done for my baby and I was joining the Early Years Centre and signing up for some mommy & baby classes. I know our local library had a great music class. This will allow you to meet people who are the exact same as you. Another thing I did was I found a local playgroup on one of those meet up sites. I went an met a house full of strange women who had kids around the same age as mine. We are still friends even though all of our kids are grown up. I met them a week ago for dinner!

    Please trust me when I say you are not alone!

  2. Nope, you are not the alone. I would love for you to reach out to other women in your area. Depending on where you live, there are mom groups, mom and baby classes. You need to get out with your daughter and meet new people.

    This is why I work with http://www.lifewithababy.com – to help moms like you find yourself again and socialize with other moms.

    Please email me on the contact page if you want to chat!

    Maria

  3. You are never alone when you are dealing with motherhood!! Im a SAHM my 2nd time around! We are here for you!

  4. You are definitely not alone. I’m back at work (have 2 DD 5 & 2) and even with working have a hard time connecting with a lot of my friends on how I’m feeling. We waited until later in life (I’ll be 40 this year) to have kids and most of my friends have kids in their teens and some in college/university.

    Although intimidating at first, with DD1 I went to my local Early Years Centre and still keep in touch with a lot of the moms I met there. After the birth of DD2, I joined the local chapter of momstown and have made some amazing friends – one of them has become my ‘best’ friend!

    Hugs to you!

  5. I hear you, don’t worry thoughtyou are never alone I feel like that all the time I have a son who’s a year & a half & I haven’t spoken to friends in years it seems most have not even met him, my partner is always super supportive but I understand without your own ‘life’ it can feel sometimes like baby is your only job. Whenever I tell people how I feel they tell me that he IS my only job *lol so I try to focus on that & bring him out of the house as often as possible, I am somewhat of a loner & I hope he makes many friends when he’s older & want to teach him to be social so I force myself, tried going to baby gymnastics and other things that he can be with other babies but still feel myself I don’t fit in with the rest of the parents there..But I always remember how much fun HE’S having ans by reading your post I know we are both not the only ones and we’ve got the best gifts in life you could ever ask for. Hope you are able to get out of your shell & i hope the Best future for you <3 x

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