by an Anonymous Mom

I don’t want to be a stay at home mom… anymore.

I have been a stay at home mom for about five years now. I love my two children dearly and feel extremely lucky to have been home with them for their early years. I know I should be grateful and I truly am.

But lately I’ve been feeling the itch to get back out into the workforce. Have a job to do other than taking care of my kids and my house. Feel a real sense of accomplishment on the job. Raising kids is an accomplishment too, I know… and I’m responsible for these amazing little lives, guiding them and being their everything. But can I also have something for “me”?

And then I feel guilty about having these feelings. Being home all the time is lonely and isolating, even though I try to keep myself busy. From working in the corporate world to running a household is very different. Instead of running a department, I’m overseeing chores – laundry, cooking, dishes, cleaning etc. I feel like my college degree is going to waste. I also crave the financial independence I had before having kids.

How do I know if I could handle going back to work though? Could I handle the commute? School drop offs and before/after school care? Then not having enough time after work to get dinner on the table, spend quality time with the kids even if I’m mentally exhausted from a stressful day.

I wonder if I should just STFU, count my blessings and continue doing what I’m doing?

If I go back to work full-time, I’ll probably miss being at home. Even just a few more years and the kids are a bit older, I could go back but until then I may drive myself crazy. Is the grass greener?

As you can see I’m on the fence because I don’t know if there is such a thing as a happy medium. Has anyone gone through this who is willing to share their experience?


Maria Lianos-Carbone is the author of “Oh Baby! A Mom’s Self-Care Survival Guide for the First Year”, and publisher of, a leading lifestyle blog for women.


  1. I blog often and I really thank you for your
    content. This great article has really peaked my interest.

    I am going to book mark your website and keep checking
    for new information about once per week. I opted in for your Feed as well.

  2. It’s going to be some time, a long wait perhaps,
    before such a test is routinely given. Also helpful as a cooking spice or fragrant salad dressing alternative to salt and pepper are celery seeds.

    It is best to be in a reclining position or sitting.

  3. WellWisher Reply

    Try volunteering full time somewhere before you start working. See if you can handle the time away from home and pick/drop kids routine. It will give you a better idea.Good Luck!

  4. Good day! This post couldn’t be written any better! Reading through this post reminds me off my previous
    room mate! He always kept chatting about this. I will forward this article too him.
    Pretty sure he will have a gokod read. Many thanks for sharing!

  5. Hi to all, the contents existing at this web site are in fact remarkable for people knowledge, well, keep up the good work fellows.

  6. An impressive share! I have just forwarded this onto a coworker who was
    doing a little research on this. And he actually bought me breakfast due to the fact that I discovered it for him…
    lol. So allow me to reword this…. Thank YOU for the meal!!
    But yeah, thanx for spending time to discuss this matter here
    on your internet site.

  7. Excellent site you have got here.. It’s hard to find excellent writing
    like yours these days. I really appreciate individuals
    like you! Take care!!

Write A Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.