You’ve worked hard to reach your personal and professional goals, and you’re proud of what you’ve accomplished. You’re passionate about what you do, and you take on much more than you can probably handle. But you keep going because you’re strong! You can do it all!

If you’re honest with yourself, you’re coming to realize that you can’t keep this pace up much longer. Juggling work and home is wearing you down. You’re always “crazy busy”.

Why is being busy such a big deal? Does being so busy make you feel or appear more important?

It seems that being busy all the time is a status symbol – you must be really important, special and successful if you’re always busy. But instead, you unwillingly come across as being annoying. I cringe when I hear someway say, “I’m soooo busy.”

How do I know this for certain? Well, I used to say it myself. When I took a step outside my own over-analytical head, I realized just how annoying the words sounded as they came out of my mouth.

Saying “I’m so busy” doesn’t make you sound any more intriguing or appealing… in fact, it turns people off. Yes we’re ALL busy, so it’s pointless to share how busy you are, how late you’re staying up to work, or how early you’re getting up to get a head start. We all are hustling to make better lives for ourselves and our families.

The truth is, everybody is leading busy and over-scheduled lives. We all share the same 24 hours in the day. How you choose to spend those 24 hours is up to each individual.

Often, being too busy is unhealthy and counterproductive. You may be focusing your time and efforts on things that don’t matter. Does wasting precious time scrolling through social media feeds ring a bell?

Author Tyler Ward says, “Being busy isn’t respectable anymore.” He’s right. Being busy is not popular anymore.

“Being busy is not the same as being productive, and is more often used as a guise for avoiding the few critically important but uncomfortable actions. “ ~ Tim Ferriss, Author

“This disease of being “busy” (and let’s call it what it is, the dis-ease of being busy, when we are never at ease) is spiritually destructive to our health and wellbeing. It saps our ability to be fully present with those we love the most in our families, and keeps us from forming the kind of community that we all so desperately crave.”  ~ Writer Omid Safi

I find more frequent breaks from work makes me more productive. In fact, research shows that employees and companies who push longer hours result in less productivity.

It’s actually cool now to have time on your hands, to binge-watch shows on Netflix and spend hours in a Starbucks or at Chapters browsing through books. In fact, I love the feeling of laziness. It feels fantastic to sometimes do absolutely nothing.

Have you recently said you’re too busy?

Why Being Busy is Not Popular Anymore

 

 

 

 

 

Author

Maria Lianos-Carbone is the author of “Oh Baby! A Mom’s Self-Care Survival Guide for the First Year”, and publisher of amotherworld.com, a leading lifestyle blog for women.

5 Comments

  1. I agree wholeheartedly.
    Busy is a tricky word, a word that most often is attached to an individual that is avoiding someone or something.
    I wish we had more hours in the day for sure, but you’re so right that what we do in our 24 hours is what counts. I recently came across the new IKEA commercials about home-work life balance and the importance of making use of those precious hours spent when we are home with the kids after work, etc. in our home before a new day starts. It was very touching. Great read!

    • amw Reply

      Thanks, Carol! Busy is tricky… one the one hand, there is truth to the word. On the other, we tend to overuse it and lean on it as an excuse.

  2. Great post Maria! I understand what you’re saying and that the word busy is overused. But I don’t agree that we all are trying to hustle and therefore when talking with your friends/family when they ask can’t say work has been “busy” or finding time for life has been a challenge (it is a real challenge). There are people who do have work/life balance but that’s more of a luxury now. More and more people struggle with the separation of the two because of the career paths they’ve chosen and/or the expectations of their current boss. And if you’re trying to have your own business then there really is no separation at least initially is there.

    Of course, you never want to come across as annoying and we all could use a couple extra hours in the day, it may make it easier for some to gain more of the balance they desire.

    xo, Laura

  3. I agree. It’s annoying when people say they are “soooo busy.” Who isn’t?! I definitely would love to be more productive and less busy. Great post…and great reminder to stop overscheduling and to say no sometimes.

  4. Great perspective! I rarely say I am busy. I try really hard to stay balanced and giving myself freedom to simply be.

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