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For Canadians and Americans seeking affordable places to travel for March break, there are several options that offer both value and enjoyable experiences. The lower overall costs of living in places like Eastern Europe and Central America compared to major cities in North America and Western Europe means more affordable accommodations, dining options, and activities for travelers.

Here are some great affordable March break destinations to consider for your next trip!

Top Affordable Places to Travel for March Break

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Deerfield Beach Florida

Looking for a quieter place on Florida’s coasts? Deerfield Beach is the perfect place to experience South Florida’s stunning beaches without the large crowds, and it’s an affordable place to travel. The small town of Deerfield Beach is situated between Boca Raton and Pompano Beach. It’s a slice of beachy paradise without all the hustle and bustle in other areas like Miami or Clearwater.

Deerfield Beach is a quaint little town with a fishing pier that stretches almost a thousand feet. It has an award-winning “Blue Wave” beach which means it is one of the cleanest and most environmentally safe beaches in the U.S. If you enjoy outdoor activities like fishing, camping, water skiing, surfing, wakeboarding, or paddleboarding, Deerfield Beach should be on your radar.

After you’ve had your fill of adventures, swing by the Historic Butler House for a tour and peek into the Deerfield Beach Historical Society Museum for a bit of local history.

Where to stay? The Embassy Suites by Hilton Deerfield Beach Resort & Spa has lovely views of the Atlantic. This boutique resort offers a complimentary made-to-order breakfast and evening reception at the on-site Beach Terrace Restaurant. Families can enjoy Spring Break savings using the Stay Longer & Save promotion – save 10% off one night, 20% off two nights or 30% off three nights on travel booked through April 2024. Affordable rates start at $200 per night!

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Shores & Islands Ohio

Who said road trip? Shores & Islands Ohio is one of the top affordable places to travel for March break for Canadians and Americans. It’s especially a great option for families with younger children. It’s centrally located in the Midwest and an easy drive around Lake Erie from Ontario.

The region is home to three indoor water park resorts – Castaway Bay, Great Wolf Lodge, and Kalahari Resorts & Conventions. They’re all-under-one-roof getaways for the family located in Sandusky, Ohio.

Castaway Bay’s tropical theme makes guests feel like they have just landed on an island paradise. It boasts a 38,000-square-foot indoor waterpark loaded with water activities for all ages, including a 100,000 gallon wave pool and 10 water slides. 

Great Wolf Lodge in Sandusky is a popular family vacation destination located midway between Cleveland and Toledo. This 33,000 square-foot indoor water park is maintained at a 84 degrees year-round. It also has other exciting local attractions and events, diverse dining options to satisfy every palate, and more all under one roof. 

Kalahari is the mid-west’s largest indoor waterpark America’s with an array of activities for children of all ages. There are water slides, tube slides that multiple people can ride together, a wave simulator for surfing, a splash pad area for little kids, a multi-level water playground, and a wave pool. Guests can also enjoy the arcade, escape room, mini-golf, laser tag a safari adventure with up-close animal encounters, and more.  

Outside of the resorts, there is a Cheers Trail with more than 20 wineries, breweries, and distilleries, fantastic dining options (Sandusky Restaurant Week is March 4-10), a number of local museums, and fun family amusements.

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Montreal, Quebec

Bonjour Montreal! Montreal is a vibrant city with a rich cultural scene and a European feel. Montreal has affordable accommodations, delicious food, and plenty of attractions to explore. You can do a lot of site-seeing on foot and what’s best? It can be free or low cost. Visitors can explore Old Montreal and  public parks like Mount Royal Park. There are plenty of cultural events and festivals. Many museums and galleries offer discounted admission on certain days or during specific times.

While March in Montreal can still be chilly, it’s generally considered off-peak tourist season compared to the summer months. Accommodation prices may be more affordable, and attractions may be less crowded.

In addition to the site-seeing and bustling nightlife, Montreal is known for its diverse culinary scene. There are many dining options to suit various budgets. From casual eateries like the famous Schwartz’s Deli and food trucks to affordable bistros and cafes, travelers can enjoy delicious meals without breaking the bank. Make sure to grab some bagels and cannoli before heading home!

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Costa Rica

Known for its lush rainforests, diverse wildlife, and eco-friendly tourism, Costa Rica is one of the top affordable places to travel, though it’s becoming more popular (which means more expensive). But Costa Rica still offers affordable accommodations and plenty of outdoor activities such as hiking, zip-lining, and wildlife tours. March is typically towards the end of the dry season in Costa Rica, which means it’s still a popular time to visit, but it’s slightly off-peak compared to the peak tourist season from December to February. During off-peak times, you may find lower prices for accommodations and activities.

Many of Costa Rica’s natural attractions like their beaches, waterfalls, hiking trails, and national parks, are free or have low admission prices. Enjoy time in nature by doing outdoor activities like hiking, swimming, and  watching wildlife, all of which can be both affordable and memorable too! Costa Rica does have many budget-friendly activities such as snorkeling, surfing, zip-lining, and hot spring visits. Look for discounted packages or deals offered by tour operators to save money on these experiences. Costa Rica has a thriving hostel and guesthouse scene, especially in popular tourist destinations like San José, Monteverde, Manuel Antonio, and La Fortuna.

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Nicaragua

If you’re like adventure and exploring places that aren’t overrun by tourists, Nicaragua should be on your radar. Nicaragua is one of the most affordable places to visit for March break and other times of the year too! It has affordable accommodations with access to breathtaking beaches and volcano treks. 

When it comes to budget travel, Nicaragua’s a winner; it’s in the top 25% for affordability worldwide. There are budget-friendly hostels and cozy family guesthouses to fancy eco-friendly resorts that won’t break the bank. Getting around won’t cost you an arm and a leg either with their busses. And you can chow down on street food, hit up local eateries, or splurge on fine dining too.

Nicaragua’s slowly but surely getting on the map for adventurous surfers and backpackers. They’re loving the low prices, local vibe, and the eco-friendly adventures it offers. Whether you’re shredding waves in San Juan, paddling around Ometepe Island on Lake Nicaragua, or zooming down the slopes of an active volcano (yep, you read that right!), Nicaragua’s got something for every active traveler out there.

If relaxing is more your vibe, Ometepe Island offers tranquility too. You can rent a motorbike or scooter to explore the island. Visit San Ramon Waterfalls and Ojo de Agua which is like nature’s own gem, tucked away in the most stunning surroundings, with lush tropical plants all around. People say its water has some magical healing powers and it’s as clear as crystal.

Punta Jesus Maria is the hotspot on Ometepe, known far and wide for its stunning beach vibes. This point juts out into the lake, splitting it in two and treating visitors to jaw-dropping views of Ometepe’s twin volcanoes. It’s the go-to spot for catching the most mesmerizing sunsets on the island.

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Eastern Europe

Wanting to escape North America and travel to Europe? Eastern European countries like Hungary (especially Budapest), Poland (Krakow and Warsaw), and the Czech Republic (Prague) offer vibrant history, and breathtaking architecture and best of all – affordability. In these charming cities, you’ll find a range of accommodations to suit your budget. From cozy guesthouses to budget-friendly hotels, all accommodations are priced quite lower than their Western counterparts. Plus, with Airbnb options aplenty, you can snag affordable and one-of-a-kind lodging experiences.

Choosing where to go is difficult! The architecture of Budapest is stunning as is the picturesque landscapes of the Czech Republic and Poland. Regardless of where you choose, you’ll find rich history, diverse cultures, and captivating traditions. Whether it’s strolling along the Danube River or hiking in the Tatra Mountains, there are plenty of things to do and see.

Many attractions offer free admission or charge only nominal fees. Site-seeing on foot is the best way to explore and discover. Wander through cobblestone streets and soak in the vibrant atmosphere of the neighbourhoods. Public transportation is efficient and budget-friendly too (compared to Toronto!) so navigating these cities is easy. You can get around well without worrying about expensive fares. Eastern Europe beckons with boundless adventures and unforgettable experiences that won’t cost you a fortune.

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Top Affordable Places to Travel for March Break
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Happy New Year! 

Do you make resolutions for the new year? Do you have a word for 2024? I’m not one of those people. In recent years, I’ve adopted the practice of selecting a personal “word of the year” for myself, a theme word that best describes where I am or where I want and need to be.

During the holidays, I like to reflect on the previous year, both its trials and tribulations, and the small victories. With all of the learning and observations from that year, I prefer to choose one word to represent my aspirations for the coming year. Because one simple word can help you focus your intentions more easily, it can also serve as your mantra when you get off track or lose focus.

Here’s a look back at some of my theme words over the past 10 years:

2014 – flourish
2015 – focus, be, leisure
2016 – nurture
2017 – manifest
2018 – clarify, courage, celebration
2019 – pivot
2020 – open
2021 – grounding
2022 –  grounding* though I didn’t write a new word, the word ‘grounding’ trickled into 2022
2023 –
cultivate

How to choose a theme word of the year?

I find it always a challenge to come up with one word that best sums up what you aspire to be, do, and accomplish. What is one word that you can use to describe the general theme of feeling you hope to have for 2024? If you reflect long enough, I’m sure you can find one… or even three, as I did in 2018.

Take some time to think about your personal and professional goals for the upcoming year. Reflect on the emotions and feelings you want to cultivate in the coming year. Do you find a recurring theme or pattern that stands out?
 
Where do you see yourself in the future? Do you want to focus on joy, resilience, growth, or gratitude? Choose a word that encapsulates the emotional tone you aim for. Picture yourself achieving your goals and embodying the qualities associated with your theme word. Sitting or lying down and doing some deep breathing and visualizing where you see yourself can also help allow the word to pop into your mind’s eye.
 
What you want to achieve? What are some experiences you hope to have? Habits you want to form and/or break? What principles are most important to you? Your theme word should align with these values and reflect the kind of person you want to be. At the same time, allow yourself the flexibility to adapt your theme word as the year unfolds. Nothing is permanent and things are always changing. Your priorities or circumstances may shift, so be open to adjusting your focus.
 

Once you’ve chosen your theme word, create a visual reminder such as a vision board or a desktop wallpaper on your computer, with the word prominently displayed. Or you can simply add a reminder on your phone every morning with your word and an additional inspirational/motivational message if it fits. These little reminders can help reinforce your commitment to your theme word of the year, and keep your focus on track.

What is my word for 2024? 

My theme word for 2023 was “cultivate”. But I didn’t have the opportunity to cultivate – my professional life anyway – in 2023. My life was put on a huge pause because of personal reasons… my father’s health issues suddenly became worse literally overnight, and his health deteriorated within weeks. Within a few months, my father was gone.

The grief process is ongoing and I’m sure will never have an end date. I’m still learning to cope with the huge loss. I’m still learning to get used to the ‘new normal’, whatever that is as it varies from day to day. The mind also plays tricks on us in some ways with timelines and memories, and shifting from sadness to hopefulness.

So I don’t have a new word for 2024 and I don’t think I will other than the word “healing” is all I can manage right now. I’m trying to focus on the good memories rather than be consumed by the grief. I’m trying to find a little bit of joy every day where I can and practice gratitude as often as I can. 

What is your word for 2024?

Word for 2023

Get ready to lace up your skates and dive into frosty adventures as we unveil the best skating trails Ontario. From the enchanting Woodview Mountaintop Skating Trail in Collingwood’s Blue Mountain Resort to the magical Cranberry Marsh Ice Trail in Bala, Muskoka, and the record-breaking Rideau Canal Skateway in Ottawa, journey through a winter wonderland like no other. Whether you’re twirling beneath tiki torches at Arrowhead Provincial Park, gliding (maybe with a skating aide!) through the urban vibes of the Bentway Skating Trail in Toronto, or soaking up the scenery at LV Four Seasons Trail, the Ontario skating trails saga is one wild ride!

So grab your mittens, cue the twinkling lights and join us as we take you on a tour of fun skating trails in the heart of Ontario.

Arrowhead Provincial Park

Embark on a wintery adventure at Arrowhead Provincial Park, home to one of Ontario’s best skating trails in the  Muskoka region. This 1.3 km icy wonder which isn’t just a trail; it’s a journey through what’s like a fairy-tale evergreen forest. You absolutely need to have this on your winter bucket list.

For something extra, time your visit for the Fire and Ice Nights at Arrowhead Provincial Park.  Picture the trail as a dreamy wonderland, lit by hundreds of tiki torches… it’s a date night dream!

If you can make it happen, avoid the weekend hustle and bustle by visiting during the week. Guarantee a spot by snagging an Advanced Daily Vehicle permit. The Arrowhead skating trail is open from 11:00 am to 5:00 pm when the sun is shining. But the real magic unfolds during the Fire and Ice Nights, kicking off from 6:00 pm to 9:00 pm. Your admission covers access, and if you’re sans skates, no worries—rentals are available at the park office.

Don’t miss the opportunity to glide through this winter wonderland in Muskoka, Ontario. Find out more about the Fire and Ice Nights. Your icy adventure awaits!  Visit Arrowhead Provincial Park – Fire and Ice Nights

 

 
 
 
 
 
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Bentway Skating Trail

Dive into the cool groove of Ontario skating trails right in the heart of Toronto at the Bentway Skating Trail. Since its debut in 2018, this 1.75-kilometer marvel beneath the Gardiner Expressway has has redefined winter in the city and adds a vibrancy to the Toronto waterfront.

Glide along the 220m figure-eight skate trail, surrounded by woven arches that’ll make you feel like you’re skating under the northern lights. And here’s the best part—it won’t cost you a dime! Free skating, plus extra goodies like hot chocolate on Mondays and free skate rentals on Fridays. It’s a winter dream come true!

Experience the essence of Ontario skating trails at The Bentway. For all the details, head over to their website… your icy adventure is just a skate away! Visit The Bentway.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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MacGregor Point

Explore the diverse natural beauty of MacGregor Point Provincial Park along Lake Huron’s shoreline. This all-season park, located just south of Port Elgin, boasts a seven-kilometer stretch of coast, offering a complex ecosystem to discover.

Find yourself amidst the stunning waterfront snowshoeing routes and a winter bird-filled marsh walk. But the highlight is the 400-meter skating trail at MacGregor Point. It is shorter than some of Ontario skating trails but the trail’s picturesque scenery adds a special charm to the winter experience. MacGregor Point also offers skiing, snowshoeing, camping and other winter fun while you’re visiting.

Under the right conditions, the 400-meter skating trail at MacGregor Point becomes a magical outdoor experience, lit up for evening skating until 10:00 p.m. daily. It’s open from dusk till dawn, weather permitting. Access to the skating trail is included in the park admission. Take a day trip if you can to enjoy this Ontario skating trails at MacGregor Point.  Visit MacGregor Point.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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Cranberry Marsh Ice Trail

Skating with cranberries?  Yes, you can! Experience a unique blend of nature and winter fun at the Cranberry Marsh Ice Trail in Bala, Muskoka.

You can skate a 1.2 km loop around 12 acres of cranberries! The loop is surrounded by a picturesque landscape of forest on one side and cranberry beds on the other. This one-of-a-kind skating trail is a delightful addition to the Ontario skating trails scene.

Once your toes and nose turn numb, warm up at the Muskoka Lakes Farm and Winery with hot mulled wine or hot cran-apple cider sourced directly from the farm. Don’t miss the torchlight skating every Saturday night from 6 pm – 9 pm, weather permitting, adding a magical touch to your skating experience.

There is also torchlight skating every Saturday night from 6 pm – 9 pm (weather permitting). While you’re visiting, check out the Guided Farm Tour or hike the snowshoe trails. There are also tutored wine tasting, or sip on wine at your own pace while nibbling on cheese on the fireside patio.

Immerse yourself in the charm of skating trails in Ontario at the Cranberry Marsh Ice Trail in Bala.

Visit Johnstons Cranberry Marsh Ice Trail.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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Gage Park, Brampton

Gear up for some frosty fun at Gage Park’s Ontario Skating Trails—it’s like stepping into a winter wonderland right in downtown Brampton! Picture this: a skating trail adorned with thousands of twinkling lights, a charming gazebo, and the cozy vibe of small-town charm.

But it gets better! This year, Gage Park is turning up the heat with a DJ spinning tracks on Friday and Saturday nights, plus Sunday afternoons. The City of Brampton has your winter warmth covered with a crackling fire pit. And for those hunger pangs, there’s a food truck dishing out delights. Forgot your skates and helmet? No worries—they have rentals.

The skating trail extravaganza kicks off Sunday to Thursday from 10 a.m. to 10 p.m., and on Fridays and Saturdays, the party stays alive until 11 p.m. 

Gage Park is one of the ultimate Ontario skating trails hotspot. It’s at Main St. South and Wellington St. West in Downtown Brampton. Don’t miss out on this magical winter experience as one of the best skating trails Ontario. Visit Gage Park.

 
 
 
 
 
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Woodview Mountaintop Skating Trail

Get ready for a frosty adventure at Collingwood’s Blue Mountain Resort, the ultimate winter wonderland! It’s not just about epic skiing; they’ve got dining, cozy accommodations, and, wait for it… one of Ontario’s best skating trails!

The Woodview Mountaintop Skating Trail, a 1.1-kilometer loop, weaves through a snowy forest with sneak peeks of breathtaking views from the Niagara Escarpment overlooking Georgian Bay.

Slide into this icy paradise via Scenic Caves Road, typically open for skating fun from January to early March. For an extra dose of enchantment, hit the trail at night and bask in the magic of twinkling lights hanging over the skating surface. Grey County showers it with snow, creating a winter fairy tale you won’t want to miss.

To access the Woodview Mountaintop Skating trail, you’ll need to grab a Blue Mountain Play All Day ticket. It gives you unlimited, single-day access to the winter attractions to slide, skate, or snowshoe the day away. This includes Woodview Mountaintop Skating, snowshoe trail access at Scenic Caves Adventures, Ridge Runner Mountain Coaster, Hike n’ Tube, and Plunge! Aquatic Centre.

While you’re in the area, why not or explore the charming town of Collingwood? The options for frosty fun are endless! Lace-up and let the Ontario skating trails magic unfold.

Need skates? No worries – skate rentals and skate aids are right on-site.  Visit Woodview Mountaintop Skating Trail.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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Laurentian Valley Skating Trail

Dive into winter magic at the LV Four Seasons Trail, your go-to spot for Ontario Skating Trails fun! Picture this: a 1.5 km granular surfaced trail winding through a wooded wonderland. But, hold onto your skates—when winter arrives, this trail transforms into a breathtaking natural ice surface!

Guess what? Walking or skating here won’t cost you a dime during operating hours donations, big or small, are like snowflakes—unique and welcomed! The trail’s dedicated volunteers work hard to create and maintain this enchanting trail, and your donations keep the magic alive.

Feeling adventurous? There are several km’s of snowshoe trails too! Two different routes, because why settle for just one path? And here’s the secret: those snowshoe trails double up as hiking trails in the summer months. Talk about a year-round adventure!

Mark your calendar because this winter wonderland typically opens its gates in January and bids adieu in March, weather permitting (check the website for official opening). Skates are usually from 10:00 am to 4:00 pm daily but there are also night skates every Thursday and Saturday from 6:00 pm to 9:00 pm, lit up by charming lamp posts and string lights.

Picture this: over 1,000 skaters under the starry sky at each event! It’s become the hottest ticket in town. So, lace-up, grab your gear, and join the fun at the LV Four Seasons Trail—it’s where Ontario Skating Trails meet pure winter enchantment! Visit Laurentian Valley Skating Trail.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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Rideau Canal Skateway

Get ready for the ultimate frosty fiesta on the Rideau Canal, the granddaddy of Ontario Skating Trails! Ottawa proudly boasts the world’s largest natural ice rink—oh yes, Guinness World Records certified! From January to February, the picturesque Rideau Canal, a UNESCO World Heritage Site, freezes over, turning into a winter wonderland that draws thrill-seekers from across the globe.

The Rideau Canal Skateway is a whopping 7.8 kilometers (4.8 miles) of icy bliss, stretching from downtown Ottawa’s heart to the sprawling Dows Lake. It’s not just a skating trail; it’s practically a winter festival of its own!

In the bustling downtown, you’ll stumble upon food and beverage havens, skate rentals, and toasty warming stations—like a winter carnival right on the ice. As you venture further, they might be a tad sparse, but fear not, the essentials are still sprinkled along this Ontario Skating Trail.

The Rideau Skating Trail is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to winter fun on the Rideau River. Brace yourselves because this frosty paradise typically opens its gates mid-January, weather playing along. And guess what? Zero admission fee to bask in the icy glory! Need skates? They have all sizes, and if you’re feeling fancy, there are kicksleds and support bars for beginner skaters.

If you find yourself in Ottawa during winter, this is THE activity you don’t want to miss!

Glide, twirl, and dance your way through the Rideau Canal Skateway—it’s where Ontario Skating Trails meet winter extravaganza!  Visit Rideau Canal Skateway.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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9-8-8 is Canada’s new Suicide Crisis Helpline for anyone who is
thinking about suicide or worried about someone they know.  
For more information, call or text 9-8-8.
Visit 988.ca to learn more.


Guest post by Alexandra Wyman

The following is an excerpt from “The Suicide Club: What to Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death” (Houndstooth Press / November 21, 2022 / $5.99)

No matter what happens, please just always let our son
know how much I love him and always take care of him. I love you.

My soulmate, the man of my dreams, the man I waited so long to meet, my everything, my better half, my penguin, my love—with one single action, he blew up my life, and it would never be the same. My husband went up to the mountains and shot himself. What the fuck is happening? How am I supposed to do this on my own and raise this kid? What did I do to deserve this? This was not part of the deal. How in God’s name am I supposed to get out of bed today?

Grief doesn’t happen the same way twice. There’s no predictability to it. It’s just like our son’s first experience using a pen to draw on paper. Nothing is legible about what he drew, and yet the only real part of his drawing is the ink. The fact that I am grieving is recognizable, but its order and legibility are a complete mystery. Grief’s unpredictability is challenging to manage. At times, I could tell my nieces a fun story about Uncle Shawn or play one of his favorite games without even flinching, and other times, I had to excuse myself for a quick sob in the bathroom.

In the beginning weeks after Shawn died, I reserved time every night to turn on a hot shower and weep. I made sure my son was down for the night and then stifled my sobs so as not to wake him. From the day Shawn died, for a couple of months, my son and I did not live at home. We moved into my parents’ basement; I am grateful we had the option to do so. With time to heal, I now know there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Whether you are a public or private griever, it is right. Whether you wear sunglasses all the time to hide your puffy, red, bloodshot eyes, or you look like a mad person in your car while screaming at your steering wheel, it’s all correct. If you beat the shit out of your Tempur-Pedic pillow while listening to “Flower” by Moby, it’s okay. If you choose to book a Rage Room for twenty minutes of uninhibited rage colliding with a steel bat, taking out furniture and household items, it is exactly what you need to do. What is not okay is holding it in. Finding excuses to not deal with grief, or finding distractions in your life to hold off the inevitable of the individualized grief process coming your way, can ultimately be unhealthy and prolong the process.

One of my therapists early on asked me if Shawn had a sense of humor. “Yes!” I said emphatically. All sorts of moments brought a little laughter to us amid the grief. You will find some too, and it is absolutely okay to chuckle, even if it leads to another sob session. It is said that laughter is the best medicine, and I truly believe that. Although I have had many challenges in losing Shawn, a small part of me recognizes that he is okay where he is, and he would want us to enjoy the funny moments—even if there are only a few.

Getting to a point of peace in my grief process is tough and still very much a part of my journey. Facing death, embracing time, and rediscovering joy and love are all components of the process—a process that cannot be rushed nor skipped over. I have peace knowing his soul is in a place where there is no pain or sorrow. He can rest. It has taken soul-searching in all of my being to realize my purpose in all of this was to love Shawn unconditionally and to bear our son. For these things, I am grateful. I am grateful I met him, knew him, loved him, laughed with him, hugged him, planned with him, and shared a son with him. As awful as this experience has been, I would do it all again if it meant knowing this man. My time with Shawn was a gift, and this tragedy will lead me somewhere. My life is better because I knew him.

How to Grieve: 4 Tips for going through the grief process:

  1. Strategies can change daily. Collect different tools that can help- meditating, journaling, screaming, exercising, seeing a therapist- so you have multiple things to choose from depending on how you are feeling.
  2. Find something to anchor to. It is the one thing that will motivate you to keep putting one foot in front of the other when you are experiencing the hardest days.
  3. Grief is unpredictable. What is predictable is how we respond and can trust ourselves to handle whatever life and grief hands us. Trust yourself that you can get through this. It takes work but it is possible to get through the hard days and horrible feelings.
  4. Grief from a big loss will be with us. There is no finish line. As we heal and grow, so does our grief morph and change. It is helpful to surrender to this idea.

 

Alexandra Wyman is an advocate and public speaker for resources in the aftermath of suicide. After she lost her husband to suicide in August of 2020, Alexandra found a need to change the language around suicide, and decided to write about it. Her memoir, The Suicide Club: What To Do When Someone You Love Chooses Death is an Amazon best seller. She has spoken at a variety of conferences including Bridging the Divide Suicide Prevention and Awareness Summit 2022, 2023 Northwest Conference on Childhood Grief, and has been accepted to present at the 2023 Military Social Work & Behavioral Health Conference and the International Association of Suicide Prevention Conference 2023 in Piran, Slovenia. Alexandra has also been a guest on a variety of podcasts including The Unlock Moment, Author Hour, Resilience Unravelled, She Persisted, and My Wake Up Call with Dr. Mark Goulston. Alexandra has her own podcast called The Widow’s Club, as well. She practices pediatric occupational therapy and lives in Colorado with her son. To learn more about Alexandra and her work, visit her website at www.forwardtojoy.com.

 

Ontario is beautiful in fall so why not embark on a vibrant autumn adventure? There are so many beautiful places to see fall colours… but we are exploring the BEST places to see fall colours in Ontario.

Explore the best places to see fall colours in Ontario, from the iconic Algonquin Provincial Park to Hamilton’s Dundas Peak and the picturesque Bridal Veil Falls on Manitoulin Island. Soak up the  landscapes of Sault Ste. Marie’s Agawa Canyon or Norfolk County’s scenic drives. Explore the captivating Belfountain Conservation Area, and embrace the fall charm at Rattlesnake Point Conservation Area. Dive into the heart of the Thousand Islands archipelago and witness the beauty of Ball’s Falls Conservation Area in the Niagara Escarpment.

Here are the top 10 places to see fall colours in Ontario.

1. Muskoka Region & Algonquin Park 

Muskoka is known for its spectacular fall foliage with its diverse forests and gorgeous landscapes. The area’s many lakes such as Lake Muskoka, Lake Rosseau, and Lake Joseph, reflect the rich colours, creating a stunning mirror image. The scenic drive on Highway 169 and Highway 118 wind through dense forests with stunning views at every turn. Muskoka has a few must-see lookout points such as Dorset Scenic Lookout Tower, located in the Algonquin Highlands.

Algonquin Provincial Park in Ontario is a prime destination for witnessing the fall colours in Ontario. Algonquin Park is committed to environmental preservation and ensures the health of its trees. Another great location to enjoy the fall colours in Ontario is Lions Lookout in Huntsville. It’s worth a visit as the lookout gives you a breathtaking view of Hunter’s Bay. If you’re not up for a longer hike, the Huckleberry Rock Lookout Trail is a relatively short one and leads to a granite bluff with stunning views of Lake Muskoka. Another option is Hardy Lake Provincial Park which also has lookout points along its hiking trails, allowing visitors to enjoy the seasonal colours reflecting off the lake. 

No matter where you visit in the Muskoka area during autumn, you’ll get to enjoy the fall foliage! 

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2. Thousand Islands Tower

The Thousand Islands Tower is in the heart of the picturesque Thousand Islands region in eastern Ontario. Situated atop Hill Island, the tower provides panoramic views of the Thousand Islands archipelago as it transforms into an artist’s canvas of fall colours. Enjoy the fall foliage against the backdrop of the St. Lawrence River. The surrounding islands are adorned with their own unique blend of autumn hues. You can enjoy them from the tower’s observation deck. You can also explore Thousand Islands National Park and take a boat tour along the river.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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3. Dundas Trail and Dundas Peak in Hamilton

Dundas Trail and Dundas Peak in Hamilton are one of the best places to see fall colours in Ontario. The trail, nestled within the stunning Spencer Gorge Conservation Area, offers a picturesque journey through dense forests adorned with maple and oak trees that burst into hues of red, orange, and gold. Hike the trail and climb to Dundas Peak for panoramic views of the surrounding Dundas Valley, where the brilliant fall colours.

Webster Falls is nearby and stands as one of the area’s most picturesque waterfalls. Adjacent to it, Tews Falls, within the same hiking area, holds the distinction of being Hamilton’s tallest waterfall, cascading impressively from a height of 41 meters.

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4. Bridal Veil Falls on Manitoulin Island, Ontario

Bridal Veil Falls on Manitoulin Island is also one of the best places to see fall colours in Ontario. The waterfall is framed by the lush forest, giving you a picturesque scene with brilliant hues of autumn. The vivid shades of red, orange, and gold surround the falls, making it a great backdrop for your Insta-worthy pics! 

Nearby, there are several spots that have beautiful views of fall foliage too. Cup and Saucer Trail is a renowned hiking destination and has panoramic views of the island’s dense forests. Providence Bay Beach has a gorgeous setting where the golden foliage compliments the sandy shoreline. Misery Bay Provincial Park is also a great spot to see stunning fall colours on their trails.

 

 
 
 
 
 
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5. Ball’s Falls Conservation Area

Ball’s Falls Conservation Area is nestled in the heart of the Niagara Escarpment. Explore numerous hiking trails, like the Bruce Trail. The historic Ball’s Falls, set against the backdrop of fall hues, adds to the scenic charm. Also, the area features charming heritage buildings and farmer’s market, creating that small-town Hallmark type of ambiance.

Located near the quaint town of Jordan in the Twenty Valley, Ball’s Falls Conservation Area is a great spot to enjoy fall colours. Be sure to make a stop in Niagara-on-the-Lake if you have time, and drive along Niagara Parkway which also has some of the best fall colours in Canada.

 

 

 
 
 
 
 
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6. Agawa Canyon, Sault Ste. Marie

Sault Ste. Marie, particularly renowned for the iconic Agawa Canyon Tour Train, is a fantastic place to witness the breathtaking fall colours of Ontario. The train journey takes passengers on a scenic ride through the Algoma District. As the train winds its way through the rugged landscapes, travelers are treated to a spectacular display of reds, oranges, and golds as maple and birch trees transform the surroundings into a picturesque canvas. One of the must-visit locations along the route is Agawa Canyon, where visitors can disembark and explore the canyon’s trails and waterfalls.

Hiawatha Highlands is a popular spot featuring hiking trails and scenic lookouts, providing stunning views of the changing leaves against the backdrop of Superior’s shores. Kinsmen Park, located near the waterfront, is another great spot where locals and tourists gather to admire the fall foliage while enjoying a relaxing day outdoors. Explore the scenic drives along Highway 17 and the St. Mary’s River Scenic Drive to enjoy the vibrant autumn palette. These locations, in and around Sault Ste. Marie, offer great views for experiencing the beauty of fall in Northern Ontario.

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7. Norfolk County

Norfolk County, situated in southwestern Ontario, is a splendid region to witness the enchanting fall colours. With its diverse landscapes comprising forests, farmlands, and water bodies, Norfolk County offers a rich tapestry of autumn hues. Take a scenic drive along Norfolk County’s back roads, where winding country lanes are fringed with trees. Long Point Provincial Park along the shores of Lake Erie provides stunning views of fall foliage against the backdrop of the lake.

Turkey Point Provincial Park is also a great spot to stop, known for its hiking trails. Apple picking farms such as Great Lakes Farms in Port Stanley and Norfolk Fruit Growers’ Association are popular spots where visitors can enjoy the crisp fall air while picking a variety of apples. Additionally, families and friends can get lost in the fun-filled corn maze at Hanes Corn Maze in Dundas, and visit the Tiny Shop Bakery for a sweet treat afterwards.  

 

 
 
 
 
 
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8. Belfountain Conservation Area

Belfountain Conservation Area, nestled in the heart of Caledon, Ontario, is also one of the best places to see fall colours in Ontario. Explore the serene beauty of the Credit River Valley alongside the picturesque Belfountain Falls. The scenic lookout points, such as Evelyn’s Lookout, offer breathtaking vistas of the surrounding landscape.

The quaint village of Belfountain itself provides a charming backdrop, with tree-lined streets showcasing the vivid colors of the season. Make a stop at Cheltenham Badlands with its exposed red hills, offering a captivating geological spectacle perfect for Instagram-worthy poses. You’ll want to wear comfortable shoes for hiking, of course!

Nearby, visit the Forks of the Credit Provincial Park to explore scenic trails tracing the Credit River. The Caledon Trailway is ideal for hiking, cycling, and horseback riding, and winds through the region’s natural beauty. The quaint village of Caledon is also worth a visit with its historic buildings, boutique shops, and art galleries.

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9. Rattlesnake Point Conservation Area

Rattlesnake Point Conservation Area in Milton, Ontario is another destination to witness the vibrant fall colours of Ontario. Rattlesnake Point offers breathtaking scenic lookouts, such as the Nassagaweya Canyon Lookout. Buffalo Crag Lookout has panoramic vistas of the surrounding countryside and the changing fall foliage. Walk through dense forests, limestone cliffs and unique rock formations. Visitors can explore the park’s extensive trail system, including the Nassagaweya Canyon Trail and Vista Adventure Trail.

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10. The Kawartha Lakes region

The Kawartha Lakes region makes the list as one of the best places to see fall colours in Ontario. Explore iconic spots such as Rice Lake, where the foliage reflects in the calm waters. Ganaraska Forest, one of the largest blocks of forested land in Southern Ontario, has extensive trails to enjoy autumn’s beauty.

Also, Balsam Lake Provincial Park and Petroglyphs Provincial Park both offer excellent opportunities for hiking amidst the vibrant foliage. The charming towns of Bobcaygeon and Fenelon Falls have tree-lined streets showcasing the vivid hues of fall, making the Kawartha area a must-visit destination for fall foliage enthusiasts.

Best Places to See Fall Colours in Ontario

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See Ontario Park’s Fall Colour Report at OntarioParks.com!

Best Places to See Fall Colours in Ontario

Welcome to the vibrant autumn season in Canada! As the leaves change colours, the country transforms into a breathtaking landscape of yellows, oranges, and reds. If you’re looking to discover the the best places to visit in fall Canada, here are the best places to visit in fall in Canada for beautiful colours. These  must-see destinations are the best places where you can experience the magic of fall foliage.

The Best Places to Visit in Fall Canada for Beautiful Colours

Moraine Lake, Banff National Park, Alberta

Discover one of the best places to visit in fall Canada at Moraine Lake in Alberta’s Banff National Park. Immerse yourself in the stunning fall foliage of the Rocky Mountains, with vibrant hues of yellow aspens and red sub-alpine larch trees. Hike the Banff Legacy Trail, go mountain biking, or enjoy a scenic dinner train ride through the colorful trees. Don’t miss the breathtaking views from the Banff Gondola, showcasing the golden, yellow, and green colors of the season.

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Algonquin Provincial Park, Ontario

Algonquin Provincial Park offers a picturesque landscape with colorful forests, rolling hills, and serene lakes. Visit between late September and early October to witness the trees bursting into brilliant hues of red, orange, and yellow. Lose yourself in the wilderness, surrounded by the songs of birds and the rustling of leaves.

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Niagara Parkway, Ontario

Drive along the historic Niagara Parkway, one of the best places to visit in the Fall in Canada, following the curves of the Niagara River. Experience a gallery of Impressionist paintings with maple trees creating a changing panorama of gold, orange, and red. Stop at Heights Park in Queenston for an impressive vista of the river and Lake Ontario.

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Butchart Gardens, Victoria, Vancouver Island, British Columbia

Victoria’s Butchart Gardens on Vancouver Island is a serene oasis showcasing vibrant maples and golden chrysanthemums. Visit between late September and mid-October to enjoy the garden’s Japanese section, bursting with color. Explore nearby Pacific Rim National Park for outdoor adventures amidst the autumn foliage.

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Laurentian Mountains, Quebec

During the first half of October, indulge in the breathtaking autumn scenery in the heart of Quebec’s Laurentian Mountains. Locals affectionately call this season “les couleurs,” which translates to “the colors” in French, reflecting their awe at the dazzling hues created by the golden birch trees and sugar maples.

The majestic mountains, rolling hills, and serene lakes of Mont Tremblant offer an ideal backdrop for outdoor adventures such as hiking and paddling. Escape the crowds and immerse yourself in the natural splendor of fall. Additionally, the region’s diverse culture ensures you’ll find a variety of delectable cuisines to fuel your explorations. Come and experience the vibrant tapestry of colors in Mont Tremblant, a true gem of fall foliage in Quebec, Canada.

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Fundy Coastal Drive, New Brunswick

Experience the diverse colors of New Brunswick’s trees along the Fundy Coastal Drive, one of the best places to visit in the Fall in Canada. Witness shades of yellow, orange, and red along the coast, complemented by some of the highest tides on the planet. Enjoy a maritime leaf-peeping adventure in this picturesque setting.

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Newfoundland and Labrador

Explore the dramatic forest-covered mountains, freshwater fjords, and rugged shorelines of Gros Morne National Park, a top place to visit in the Fall in Canada. Witness the striking colors of autumn, with reds among the yellow moss and moose roaming the land. Hike the Baker’s Brook Falls or Western Brook Pond trails or experience the canopy of color from a zip-line with Marble Zip Tours.

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Confederation Trail, Prince Edward Island

Prince Edward Island offers a prolonged fall foliage period due to its moderate climate, making it one of the best places to visit in Canada in the Fall. Enjoy vibrant apricot-orange sugar maples, red cherry trees, and yellow beech and birch trees. Explore the colors while hiking the Confederation Trail and savor the beauty of the season.

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Cape Breton, Nova Scotia

Embark on a scenic road trip along Cape Breton’s Cabot Trail, one of the best places to enjoy fall colours in Canada. Marvel at the breathtaking vistas from multiple lookout points and hiking trails in Highlands National Park. Experience the unique Gaelic culture and lively pub atmosphere, making your fall journey unforgettable.

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Don’t miss the opportunity to explore these enchanting destinations and immerse yourself in the beauty of Canada’s fall foliage. Happy leaf-peeping!

 

Is your child starting university? My child is starting university and I’m emotional! Parents, you are feeling so many different emotions right now as your child goes off to college or university. I didn’t have a chance to write this last year, when my son was about to start the first year of university… and as I watch others see their first child going to university or college, I’m reminded of our journey.

You’ll find yourself filled with a mix of emotions about this new phase of life for you, as well as the adventure your child is about to embark on. Whether your child is going to university or college and will live on campus, or will remain living at home and commuting, your experience may be similar. One thing is certain; you’ll be reflecting on all you’ve done to raise your child to get to this pivotal point in their lives, this remarkable milestone of entering college/university years.

My Child is Starting University! Did I do enough?

As you both enter this new phase of life, you may be left highly emotional and asking yourself:

Have I prepared them for being on their own?

Have I given enough guidance for them? To make their own good decisions? To distinguish right from wrong?

Have I instilled values and principles that truly matter?

Will they make wise choices?

Are they responsible, resilient, and self-sufficient?

Have all the lessons we’ve given taken root?

Did we raise them well enough for them to face all that university life will present?

All the emotions coming rushing.

It’s only natural to feel emotional when your child is starting university or going away to college. Now, I feel lucky (selfishly) that my son accepted an offer from the University of Toronto, which means he is living at home and commuting. Had he chosen a different program, he may have opted to attend a university away from home but what he’s studying makes the most sense to remain in Toronto. So I can only imagine the additional feelings of moving your child into a dorm room, miles away with likely no new friends (yet), having to say goodbye and then leaving them behind as you drive home.

Though excited and thrilled for him, I’d also be devastated to be apart. I’d feel like a huge part of my heart was living outside of my body until the next long weekend where we’d be reunited.

Feelings of loss.

No matter how positive you try to be, parents are going to experience feelings of loss; a life change you know one day would come, but you never can fully prepare for until you experience it first-hand.  

What strikes parents the most is that overpowering thought that “nothing will ever be the same again.” Sure, your child will return home for weekends and holidays, but they’ll forever be departing once more. The newly gained independence into adulthood is so enticing that they may never go back to living under their parents’ roof. That probable reality can be overwhelming because you’re one step closer to having an empty nest… and then the feelings of “where did the time go” take over.

While we experience moments of nostalgia and sadness as our children grow older, we are equally excited to witness them embrace this thrilling chapter of their lives. They’ll be forging new friendships, gaining cool experiences, and assuming greater independence and responsibility.

Also feeling concerned.

And yet as parents, it’s only natural to also harbor concerns. University represents a pivotal social stage in a young adult’s life. Alongside huge academic pressures, there are peer influences and increased responsibilities. The teenage years can be a challenging and awkward phase. Teenagers crave acceptance, freedom, and independence, but they can also succumb to peer pressure and stumble into adult situations they might not be prepared for. 

Our kids will eventually encounter the stark realities of the adult world… and as parents, we worry! No matter how much you prepare, you’re never quite ready for them to leave behind their youth under your guidance. To parents, it feels like their childhood has sped by so quickly. We wish we had more time to revel in the carefree days before watching our young adults grapple with the academic pressures of university, hunting for part-time jobs, and moving further into adulthood.

For me personally, I often yearn for more moments together as mom and son. If only time could stand still for a while. Wasn’t it just yesterday that I was his age, embarking on my own university journey?

Go off and explore, child.

Alas, it’s now his turn… to get out into the world as a young adult and embark on his own adventures and experiences. I’m proud to say that I believe my child is far more prepared for university than I was. He is armed with the skills and knowledge he needs to thrive in this new chapter of his life.

Go off, my child, and have the best time… enjoy your youth, be smart and have fun. You can do whatever you set your mind to do… work hard, be good to others and gentle with yourself, and you will succeed. The world is your oyster!

 

My Child is Starting University and Here’s Why I’m Emotional!

My Child is Starting University and Here's Why I'm Emotional!

You’ve probably heard the term hustle culture, used to describe the glorification of work. Those who adopt hustle culture have the urge to work harder and longer, working 50/60+ hours in a full-time job, or working a 9-5 plus or a side hustle or two. 

People who are part of the hustle culture say they have increased productivity and higher motivation leading to professional success. But along with that rise and grind mentality comes some negative effects – stress and anxiety, a lack of work-life balance and complete burnout.

According to Gallup, the majority of the world’s workers are still quiet quitting. Worldwide, 44% of employees said they experienced a lot of stress the previous day

Anti-hustle culture is about people being against the whole idea of hustling… and I’m all here for it! You CAN work less (smarter) and reach your goals. It IS possible to hustle less to be better productive. 

How did we get here? And how can we adopt anti-hustle culture into our work lives?

I spoke with Shawn Fink, a Business Strategist & Courage Coach who offers fierce business strategy and soulful support to women+ entrepreneurs who want to Brave UP and release fear & self-doubt so they can grow, uplevel or pivot their business for greater joy and revenue. She’s also a writer and nature lover and mom of twin teen girls. Book a FREE coaching exploratory call with her now.

 

Maria:  Tell me about the anti-hustle culture… I remember a time where it was so impressive to hear someone say how busy they were and how they were working on all of these projects, and they didn’t have time to do anything other than hustle because they were having so many side hustles. When did this switch happen to the anti-hustle mindset?

Shawn:  I can’t say for sure that I know when and I don’t even know that it has completely switched. I think people now more than ever want an anti-hustle life and mindset. But I think still people are caught up in in the hustle, and it’s because it’s  a hard habit to break; and certainly the systems that our country our world is made of makes it kind of like necessary to hustle. I actually wrote a book years ago called “Savoring Slow,” so my own mentality has always been more kind of leaning towards slow and not getting caught up in busyness. One of the things that we’ve noticed over the last few years since the pandemic and COVID and lockdown, especially from Lockdown, as people realize that they had more priorities than they had prior to COVID and lockdown. Everybody was like busy hustling, getting things done, off and doing this and that. And then the lockdown allowed for space – space to tend to yourself, space to bake bread…there was a lot of time to do things that people hadn’t done before. So, since COVID and returning to work, we’re seeing a lot more conversations and workplaces around mental health burnout, exhaustion, and quiet quitting. People are like, I’m not going to give you know the 150 I’m going to give  enough.

I work with entrepreneurs so and it’s hard to be an entrepreneur, especially if your business is still in that growth stage, to keep things afloat. You are kind of in a survival mode so it can you can’t get caught up in the hustle of it all. I know that everybody that I talk to doesn’t want that; they didn’t start a business because they wanted to have like a 9 to 5 life — they started a business because they wanted freedom. So, I try to work on concepts with my people that is power taking impact moves. I call them “Brave yes” power moves because it’s all about how I can make the most impact with the least amount of energy.

Maria: I almost envision someone on a treadmill and they’re going and going and going like a hamster turning the wheel, trying to get somewhere but not using their time productively. How can entrepreneurs and women still achieve success but with more purposeful time and energy rather than that hustle?

Shawn: It’s funny, your question reminds me of probably 10 years ago or so I had I had another business it was called the Abundant Mama Project and I was doing a lot of study in Buddhism and I had a Zen teacher and I remember specifically asking her well how do I be successful and go after my dreams and hit all my goals and still  live this like Zen life? She was like, “one thing at a time – one thing at a time.” I think that’s what we forget especially in entrepreneurship. We forget that there’s this here and now and that we can focus on the Here and Now and at the same time, one thing at a time to get to the next step to get to the next level.

I do think that it’s a balance and a struggle and I don’t think that I have it figured out and I don’t think that I’m ever going to coach somebody perfectly to get it figured out. But it’s a practice; it’s kind of like balance. We’re never going to achieve balance; it’s something that we have to work at constantly every day. Am I going to have balance today? It’s kind of like, “how am I going to focus on what is needed and important and also not get caught up in the should” and the shiny objects all of can add to our busyness because we do. It’s everywhere, what could be doing self-care wise? Travel? What you can do to your house. You can  get caught up.

Maria: I always bring it back to social media but I feel like social media can make you feel that way too because you’re constantly seeing what other people are doing and people are constantly selling themselves and hustling online that probably plays a big role too doesn’t it?

Shawn: It does and it’s a necessary evil right? Like we have to market our work especially as women entrepreneurs who are not going to have that upper edge, so we do need to put ourselves out there more even which is work that I do with my clients. But it’s all about two things you’re referencing. We have to be conscious consumers and be careful with the messaging that’s coming through particularly the messaging. There’s a lot of psychological selling and marketing tactics which I don’t buy into at all in my work and I think it’s probably because of my aversion to it in the market. Seeing it in my feed all day long, you have to kind of get to a point where you can see it and then not see. It’s like I don’t need that I don’t need that I need to focus on what is important and what I know will work for my business. Almost two and a half weeks ago, I took all social media off of my phone because I was noticing I was scrolling randomly. It wasn’t like I was not doing what I needed to do – I  was scrolling too much so I took it off and I have actually noticed a  big difference in my focus in in on my own business and my own creative projects. It comes back to the I’m not as distracted by all these messages that are flooding into my brain…all these ideas of the things that I could be doing. I’m staying on my path now. I’m still using social media – I still use it on my computer I still post. I want to clarify that I didn’t take an Instagram off because I didn’t know how to do stories any other way so that was the only the only little problem in my little plan!

Maria: You mentioned earlier some good advice about taking things one step at a time. What does that look like for you?

Shawn:  First of all, I’m somebody who will always have multiple projects going because I’m creative so I have  this project over here and I’m writing two books right now but I can only write one book at a time and I can only work on one project at a time and so for I think it  begins with  knowing your vision and knowing your priorities and then  getting  granular with what those look like  because again we get  caught up in the “shoulds” and the possibility of what everybody else is doing and maybe I should be doing that too. But if you can stick to your goals and your vision and work diligently on each one until they’re done each time. And getting support from people who can do the things that you can’t do or getting support to do the things that you  can do but shouldn’t be doing but don’t want to.

Having systems in place, time blocking – I do more like a project blocking time, saying “I’m working on a quiz right now from my website -it’s quiz block time.” I’ll work on everything related to the quiz and giving myself that time that gift of time to  be able to dive in and focus on that and not feel like I also have to be checking my email and getting on social media and responding to people. I need do this other thing and work on the thing get the thing done, then you can move on to the next thing! I know it sounds easy enough, I know it’s not. A lot of people are getting diagnosed with ADHD in the older years but in more in recent years last couple years and I always say, I don’t think our brains are meant for this amount of information that is coming at us. I mean it is a flood of information and it  is it is creating a lot of focus distractions and focus issues. So, we do need to give ourselves Grace that we weren’t meant for this go-go-go. Go slow allow yourself time to process and contemplate and give that space which is I think what I’ve seen with  taking all the social off my phone. I’m not feeling that flood getting a little bit more clarity from it.

Maria: And that goes hand in hand with the slow living concept too. Can you tell me what are some healthy ways to integrate hustle into your work life?

Shawn: The bottom line is I like to work with  ambitious entrepreneurs. I’m not going to lie, I want the hustlers and then I want to help them slow down.  I talk about how entrepreneurs  want what I call the “entrepreneur freedom trifecta”.  It’s space for time and freedom but it’s also space for identity and creative passion or creative expression freedom. In a business, especially in the work that I do, I want time to be able to write, I want time to be able to create, I want time to be able to focus on the things that I love that drew me to the work that I do. So, the number one thing when we’re thinking about hustle is, are you doing what brings you joy? Focusing on what brings you joy and what works in your business and doubling down on those things as opposed to all the tactics that might work. We can get caught up in that and that’s what creates the busyness. It’s like, I have to create this funnel and I’ve got to get this, I’ve got to put 10 social media posts out there, I’ve got to hit this content strategy. If it’s bringing you Joy and it and it’s working, double down on that! A lot of my work helps entrepreneurs identify those strengths both within themselves and then in their business so that you can have that impact instead of working on things that aren’t in your strengths. It’s like trying to fix what’s broken versus working with what’s already there. That can elevate because it’s such a relief to focus on what’s working instead of what’s not.

I can do what I’m good at, yes!  A good example of that is video – you’re a great example of somebody who can do video very well. I don’t do video. I can be on video, but I don’t I don’t produce it and that’s because I’m a writer. I was a writer to start and I’m a writer now and I’m through and through a writer. So, I own that as my strength rather than trying to hustle on grind to learn video put up video get all the reels. I might do one from time to time but I’m not going to master it, I’m not going to make that my thing because that would add in so much more hustle for me.

I work with my clients on, can you feel the friction when you’re trying to do something and that that’s going to feel like hustle. Avoiding those if you can offload them to somebody else. Or maybe you don’t need to do them at all and focus your priorities on what is very important and if you are sticking to it, you won’t feel like hustle – it’ll feel important as opposed to trying to fill your calendar or your schedule 9 to 5. Instead, you say “I only have two priorities today and I do the two priorities and then I get to go and read my book in my hammock.”

I think a lot of people, especially entrepreneurs who are still trying to shift out of that corporate mindset of “I must fill that time slot 9-5 or 8-4 and I gotta do this and that.” And they get to the end you still don’t feel like you’ve done enough! You still don’t feel like you’re arrived, and you wake up the next day with the same list… it’s the same list every day. So why not focus on what are the big priorities, I call them “the brave yes power moves” in my work. What is the power move that’s going to move the needle in my business that I can do today? And then I can go read or take a walk or do the dishes fold that laundry or make another call about the kid’s appointments.

Maria: Tell me tell me how fulfilling working with women entrepreneurs is?

Shawn: Oh, I’m amazed that I get to do this work I’ve been doing it for 10 years…not all with entrepreneurs but with women. It is very fulfilling. I love to help build and grow the person behind the business and then the business itself, so I feel very fortunate. I work with mission driven entrepreneurs, so they have big dreams and visions for how to heal and change the world, change systems. I feel honored that I get to help them do that because not a lot of people want to listen to that. They want to go back to conventional business stuff, and I don’t do conventional, I like the unconventional.

Maria: You also work with them to figure out what their strengths are and where they should focus their time?

Shawn: That’s the first thing we do as soon as they sign up, they get a whole bunch of assessments that they have to take and then we kind of pull out the strengths and their passions and what they’re good at. Then, we start to design their business model around that. Most people don’t pay attention to that when they’re building a business; you might build a business that doesn’t  work for your personality, your strengths and then now you’re stuck in something that’s not going to feel good  five years later.

Maria: Tell us where people can find you?

Shawn: shawnfink.com. I’m also on all the social medias – Shawn_BraveYes, but if you Google “brave yes”, you’ll probably find me!  

Perimenopause, also referred to as the menopause transitional phase, is the period leading up to menopause. Menopause officially occurs when you stop menstruating. While they are both stages within the same transformative process, menopause and perimenopause vary in terms of symptoms and available treatment options.

What are the symptoms and signs of menopause? What changes do most women face as menopause approaches? 

During perimenopause, you’ll start to experience symptoms of menopause. They may include changes in your period cycle, hot flashes, mood swings, sleep disturbances. Symptoms vary woman to woman and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to treatment.

So how can women improve their well-being through the perimenopause phase?

Dr. Meghan MacKinnon shared with me how to know you’re in perimenopause and menopause, and what to do to make the transition easier.

She helps women improve their health through her evidence-based approach to hormone care. She believes every woman can overcome the rollercoaster ride of imbalances by harnessing the power of your hormones to enhance mood, improve energy, relieve stress, and live life to the fullest.

As a Naturopathic Doctor, and NAMS/ North American Certified Menopause Practitioner, she investigates a variety of factors that contribute to your wellbeing, will get to the bottom of your concerns, and advise on a comprehensive treatment plan that’s right for you.

How to Know What You’re Feeling is Symptoms and Signs of Menopause

Watch my interview with Dr. Meghan MacKinnon:


 

Maria: Let’s talk about menopause and perimenopause! How do you know you’re in perimenopause? What changes do most women face as menopause approaches?

Dr. MacKinnon: Sometimes I like to joke that there’s no welcome sign – “You’ve entered perimenopause – enjoy the ride”. Many of us wish there was because it would make us feel more comfortable and confident with understanding that there’s going to be this start today and then we’ll know that we’re in it and then we’ll have a whole expectation of what to expect. Frankly the only rule with perimenopause is that there are no rules. These are the years leading towards menopause which really means it’s a mixed bag of symptoms depending on the woman her own personal situation which makes it kind of tricky. 

Maria: What are some of the things that make you realize you’re entering this phase in your life?

Dr. MacKinnon: I think most people connect to like the most common symptoms that we hear about which are going to be like the hot flashes and night sweats conversation which do and can start well before your final menstrual period, while you’re still in perimenopause or the years leading towards menopause. Once we start experiencing cycle changes where we’re going plus or minus seven days so seven days longer or a week longer between periods or a week shorter between periods, that’s another clue that we’re in like I’m going to call it “Stage two or tier two perimenopause”. That tells us, oh definitely you’re in in there for sure.

But we have a lot of like vague symptoms that do start showing up much sooner for women as well. Some of those vague symptoms include things that can be very overlapped with a lot of other health concerns which is also where some of the confusion and mystery can sneak in for people.

One of those symptoms that I’m always watching for is sleep changes or sleep difficulties that start showing up in our late 30s or in our 40s at some point. Mood changes – so this could be new onset changes to mood worsening of PMS or it could be like a worsening of underlying mood stuff that we might already have going on.

Joint pain is another one of these kinds of weird symptoms that we don’t see talked about or we’re not thinking about from a hormone perspective but that can show up. Changes to libido; changes to body composition; changes to like vaginal health or vaginal dryness. These are all things that can sometimes fall under the umbrella of perimenopause. Then there’s of course just menstrual cycle changes in general so if we start seeing heavier bleeding heavier flow or menstrual headaches like these are all signs that stuff is different.

Maria: Not every woman is going to have the same symptoms either right?

Dr. MacKinnon: No not at all and sometimes it feels like you have symptoms and sometimes it feels like you may not and that’s actually really normal and like a very classic way that stuff will present because the whole process here is that we’re not seeing a change in hormones which is a drop off a cliff. In reality, we’re seeing ups and downs which give this mixed presentation where sometimes we might have more classic menopausal symptoms. And then sometimes, everything might feel normal and that in itself is a clue that yes we are in perimenopause.

Maria: You mentioned a bunch of symptoms but what are sort of like the ones that you hear women complain the most about when they see you?

Dr. MacKinnon: I think sleep is a common one so if I was like looking at what shows up for a lot of people, sleep and mood like irritability, those sorts of things show up a lot. Sometimes we don’t know and we can’t fully tell apart, is this the only hormone changes or is it also due to other variables that are happening in life? I think that women are commonly concerned about their bodies so there’s lots of conversation about that but that shows up on a lot of intake forms. Lots of conversations about the role of hormones involved with weight management and body composition stuff but those conversations start happening more in our early to mid 40s as well as like the heavy bleeding stuff. Then once we get closer to maybe the time of menopause closer to 50-51-ish, that’s when we start seeing more of the hot flash stuff to show up. When you talk about sleep, the kind of sleep issues you’re finding are waking up more during the night or they’re not having trouble falling asleep.

The kinds of changes should we look out for I think it can be very individual as well but I’m starting to question the role of hormones when we fall asleep okay, but our sleep is very restless – toss and turn – and we’re waking up at 3 or 4 a.m. and finding ourselves unable to go back to sleep.

Maria: The hot flashes they’re a nuisance too! Is there a way to navigate that particular symptom gracefully?

Dr. MacKinnon: It’s interesting with hot flashes because I think that sometimes women are not super bothered by them and that’s okay and then sometimes, they’re extremely disruptive towards life showing up for ourselves and in our day-to-day. I think the main thing to know is that we have treatment options and supports to address your symptoms in a way that works for you and what your goals are. I think the big part here as well is recognizing that your menopause and perimenopause symptoms don’t need to be like hidden away because like even the question about “gracefully” to me kind of implies like this regal, “I must present myself the same way I always have”. I think that the more we open up the conversation into the changes that are normal and expected so that we can stand at the front of a boardroom in a presentation and be like, “sorry I’m just having a momentary hot flash give me a little moment and I’ll come back”… like that’s the kind of energy I want people to be going for at this phase of life where we’re supporting them through it but we don’t need to be ashamed or be scared about those changes. As well, I love that love that you mentioned treatments.

Maria: Tell me a little bit some of the options that are available to help like natural supplements or when should hormone therapy be considered?

Dr. MacKinnon: This is a really big question because again if someone is not that bothered by their symptoms… so I was speaking to someone this week she’s like, “yeah I just keep the window open a little bit and I  take off take my covers off” and she was like “I’m cool with that”. That’s fine if that works! We do have some natural supplements that have good evidence to treat hot flashes and night sweats, but I also really don’t like to treat the options that we have for treatment support in a hierarchy because what works for someone might not work for somebody else. It really circles back to what our treatment goals are and when we use the language that we should consider a natural supplement first and or if things are not that bad before we reach for hormone therapy in many ways even if it’s subconscious, we’re then suggesting that hormone therapy is not a safe effective treatment option. To me, the conversation really starts to be about are we candidates for hormone therapy and supporting and educating women on what are the risks what are the side effects but also what are the potential benefits that might exist for you so that we can embrace this conversation to help us to understand – is this a treatment and supportive strategy that you want to use at this phase of life rather than thinking about it as “I’m not that bad so I don’t need to”. Or it’s like, either this or treatment or that. The big difference here too is like sometimes we are talking a lot about symptom management in perimenopause but when we’re also thinking about this in terms of post-menopause so after your final menstrual period where we can still sometimes have symptoms. A supplement to treat hot flashes is going to help your hot flashes but it might not help your sleep, it might not help to prevent osteoporosis and some of the other studied benefits of hormone therapy. Whereas hormone therapy does have some other benefits that extend beyond just the treatment of hot flashes and night sweats. That’s where the conversation also differs a little bit.

Maria: So how long can this span be? How long do I have to go through this?

Dr. MacKinnon: We need the crystal ball here because I have worked with women who have little to no symptoms – little to no hot flashes, little to no challenges throughout this transition. It’s good to know that situation also exists. There are other situations where women have been dealing with hot flashes for 7,8,9 years and I think that that can be challenging because I know when we’re making decisions for our health sometimes it’s nice to know like, “I can deal with this for 6 months if I knew it was going to be 6 months.” But when we don’t know, sometimes that makes the decision making even more challenging when we’re trying to decide, “how do we support ourselves.”

Maria: Absolutely I mean if we had that crystal ball like you said if you knew okay this is going on for five years, I don’t want to have to suffer… What are three things that women who are entering this phase of life should take away from   today?

Dr. MacKinnon: I think the most important one is probably to think about this transition in terms of building some space into your life to think about your health in terms of where are we currently at with our trajectory for our health, our physical body… but maybe also our life so that we can use this as an opportunity to redirect and reframe the conversation for ourselves and our future health. That’s what I want for all women at this phase of life – that’s my mission I think is to try to help to support women in that way.

Number two is probably to educate ourselves. I think about if we were to send our daughters into conversations about or into puberty without having a conversation with them about it, we can only bridge that in a way that that makes a zero sense whatsoever. Making sure that we feel like we have an understanding about what exists, what could be normal, what’s not normal, how might we support ourselves. And making sure we access trusted well-educated information is important.

The last one is remembering that amongst this conversation about perimenopause and menopause, there can sometimes be a undertone of fear and fear can sell a program. It can sell a supplement… but we don’t need to be fearful about this time of life. We can think about it as a time of unsettling transition. We don’t have to like it, but we can access support to help us through it. You still deserve to feel your best at this phase of life regardless of the hormone changes that are happening. Enjoy the ride – try. We’re all in this together.

Maria: Tell everyone where they can find you.

Dr. MacKinnon: I’m on Instagram at @DrMegMackinnon.nd https://www.instagram.com/drmegmackinnon.nd/   and there’s a link to my website through there. I also run a women’s health group called the Pause Prescription so you can follow me on there to hear all about that as well.

 

.When your chakras are balanced and functioning properly, you are said to feel a sense of harmony, vigour, and overall well-being. But if your chakras become imbalanced, the flow of energy is disrupted, potentially leading to physical, emotional, or spiritual imbalances and health difficulties. This is why balancing your chakras is important for a happy life.

The concept of balancing your chakras is rooted in traditional Indian and yogic practices. According to these beliefs, the human body has seven major energy centers known as chakras that are interrelated and play an important role in physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. The chakras are believed to be spinning energy wheels that regulate the flow of prana or chi, or life force energy, throughout the body. 

So how do you balance your chakras, or energies? Why is chakra balancing important?

I spoke to Francesca Bonta, who empowers people to live life with love, light and joy. She has developed her own unique practice of healing arts through her years of experience and intuitive abilities. Through her spiritual guidance, she offers chakra balancing, reiki, yoga and meditation, energy work, and more. 

She gives a brief overview of what are chakras and what is chakra balancing, and why balancing your chakras is important for a happy life. Watch the video!

Why Balancing your Chakras is Important for a Happy Life 

with Francesca Bonta

Maria: Welcome Francesca! Thank you so much for joining me today!

Francesca: Thank you lovely to be here!

Maria: Can you tell me a little bit about our chakras.

Francesca: I certainly can. So basically, chakras are energy centers in the body and there are many of them. But we typically focus on the seven main ones which are aligned through the midline of the body from the tailbone area the pelvis area the belly button area or solar plexus, the heart, the throat, the third eye or the spot in between the forehead, and then the crown of the head are just slightly above the crown of the head. Those are sort of our seven main chakras and each of them is connected to physiological functions in the body, emotional properties. We can support them with foods, colours, scents, energy, medicine, planets – there are all sorts of ways that we can balance out the body and find some sort of oscillation within these chakras that works for where we’re at in that moment.

Maria: So why is that important, to balance those out?

Francesca:  I think it’s essential that we have balance in our body. Our body speaks to us in so many ways. The whole idea of speaking about chakras might be new to people but I don’t think the idea of finding balance in our body is new to anyone. When we have more of this understanding. it helps us to be our own support. So instead of looking outwards to be rescued or to be helped or to be healed, we go inwards so that whole journey is from the inside out.

You know when sometimes people will comment, “oh you’re glowing!” It’s not because I have something topical on my skin – it’s because of the energy from the inside out. Over the years I’ve learned to go inside and clear out a lot of that energy that has been holding me back. That can be trauma experiences, it can be limiting beliefs, it can be just habits that you fall into. When we go in – which by the way isn’t always easy – to honor that truth and to see things about ourselves, then we can clear space. It’s kind of like a closet right? Your closet only has so much space – our energy body only has so much space too. So, if we fill it even if we put things in boxes in the corner and shove it away, eventually the closet gets full. That’s sort of what happens with all of us in our energy bodies when we don’t want to look at things, we just kind of shove them away but they don’t really go away. We need to clear it out and we can do that through movement through actual talking about it, through energy shifting, and there’s a lot of options for how we can clear out the space. Basically, I call it our energy bubble, but it’s actually our aura which is language that I think a lot of people are becoming more familiar with if there aren’t already familiar with it.

Maria: Can you give me an example like a symptom? Say a body symptom of like when maybe a chakra is blocked for example?

Francesca: First of all, I love the fact that you mentioned the word blocked because I don’t like to say that chakras are actually blocked. I usually say that they’re congested because I don’t think a chakra can be fully blocked because if it is, I don’t think we would be alive because energy moves through the whole body. I really like to look at the vibration of language and the moment we say blocked it’s like – gasp – we say congested. It just feels a little bit softer and so many people say that you know, “oh I was told this chakra is blocked,” well I don’t agree.

So, there’s two spots on the body that I feel it’s best for us to sort of connect if we’re not really understanding what this is all about. One of them is the throat chakra. Sometimes we need to do a presentation, or we need to have a challenging conversation and we just can’t find the words, or all of a sudden, you get like a frog in your throat. Or the opposite happens what I call like you know, verbal diarrhea, where we can’t stop talking. So that is a symptom of that chakra being off balance. For example, if we were about to do this presentation today and I got a frog in my throat or I just suddenly thought I don’t know what to say, I could support that chakra by humming or using spearmint or lavender oils which I actually happen to subconsciously use just before a session. Although I had no anxiousness about it, it’s just intuitively our body does things. You’ll find too that over time of playing with chakras and understanding your body, you just naturally go to things. Just like no one has to remind me, oh go brush your teeth, it’s just something I do every day. A lot of this just becomes very natural.

Another one that is a big one – the belly, or solar plexus chakra. Gas, indigestion, bloating – all these sorts of symptoms that could appear that is a sign of maybe a lack of trust, inability to make decisions, listening to that inner voice. This chakra is one that I think speaks to all of us and that is one of my main chakra areas that I have to constantly work on. I use a language of, “I have a sensitive belly” so I will go through phases where I don’t have any stomach issues and then I’ll go through times where I call it a flare. That is something that I always have to be mindful of, so that sort of can lead us to the point that balancing your chakras.

It doesn’t mean like, okay got their check mark done! It’s impossible to be fully balanced from head-to-toe 24/7 because we are all energy and things are always shifting. Even when I see clients in clinic and we do a chakra balancing session and I show them with the pendulum how every chakra is balanced beautifully and then I show them a sample on my own body and it moves to show that it’s not balanced, I tell them that is in this moment you are as balanced as your body can be. But it doesn’t stay like that because we’re all energy and things are always shifting. And then we’re human so I might be having a great belly week and then all of a sudden, I hear unpleasant news about a family member, or get a flat tire, and then these things are going to affect how we feel. Even though we might be feeling great, things will shift.

What I tell people is the understanding of our chakras and doing work, whether it be healing sessions or your own work, is that we create this bigger bubble around us so that we have more of a playing field. I use the analogy of those bubble balls that people play soccer in when we inflate that then we have this really big bubble of energy and we can see in all directions and we bounce so even if we fall, we bounce up. If something comes at us, it deflects because we’ve got this bigger bubble… If you imagine that soccer ball bubble being deflated even if you know a little ball comes at you it’s going to hit you and if you fall, you’re going to hurt your knee… I like to use those kinds of concrete examples so that we can put what’s energy and not tangible into real life.

After hundreds of people later, maybe thousands of people later, my analogies seem to work and it’s amazing how quickly things can shift in our world when we are ready to take those necessary steps. It’s beautiful to watch people transform in you know literally from the first session it’s amazing.

Maria: Awesome I love that analogy; I could picture that so thank you for that! What are three things that people should keep in mind?

Francesca: 

1. Listen to your Body.  

I believe that listening to our body is essential and although I talk about all of this awareness of the body, my body still speaks to me on a regular basis. But not everything speaks all at once and if it is screaming at you, then you better press it listen and focus. That’s what we do a lot of times – how many times have you had that feeling – I had a feeling and you didn’t listen to yourself? Start listening to your body and start playing with simpler things. For example, your husband or your friends what you want for dinner or where should we go and eat, and our answer is, “I don’t care whatever”. Why not start listening – what do you actually feel like? What do you want, something spicy? Do you want something creative that you would never make at home? Do you feel like something kind of light and simple? Start listening and playing with things like that – they are a little bit easier for us to play with. Don’t dive right into something enormous, so get comfortable and start feeling out and then you’ll notice. For example even our bodies during the winter when where we live in Ontario, it’s very cold and it’s very dark and what do we tend to lean towards? We want root vegetables – lots of potatoes, carrots, these are root vegetables asking us to connect with the earth. We can’t go walk barefoot in the middle of winter! We need to support ourselves; our bodies are intuitively asking. With the lack of sunshine. We all gravitate towards citrus fruits especially oranges. Citrus elicits joy and joy is more easily found when the sun is shining, when we can walk by the water, when we go to the beach. During our winters we’re lacking this so intuitively we lean towards these things, and so when we start pointing out things that we do intuitively it’s like, “oh cool!” That helps to trust your body a little more. We are so intuitive, but we were never encouraged … we are allowed to feel things out and to have these kinds of discussions, even as little as five years ago for you and I to do this kind of a share, people would be like, “what are you talking about?” But in more recent times, we are being permitted to start being feeling beings right as opposed to thinking beings.

  1. Enjoy the process

Number two on my list is – enjoy the process. The journey of healing and finding balance is meant to be lovely. When we explore some sides of ourselves, there are things we don’t want to admit. Maybe you don’t want to see that not everything is butterflies, roses, rainbows and unicorns! But to heal, there are so many amazing options out there. If yoga isn’t your thing and the thought of going to a mountaintop and chanting “om” is not your thing, there are so many things that you can do. What I encourage people to do is develop a toolbox – just like in our real-life toolkit, we’ve got screwdrivers and hammers. And you have different size and different heads of screwdrivers. You’ve got like all these things that you don’t use every day. But if your toolbox is organized, then you know where to find things! Once you start playing, it’s like: “oh okay I can use a drill for this but you know what? Today I’m going to use the screwdriver. I don’t need the power drill!”

So, you find that there are so many tools that work, and I don’t use all my tools all the time. Sometimes I gravitate more towards oils, sometimes I do longer meditations, sometimes I’m moving my body more, sometimes I’m going for healing sessions more. I know that I have all these things to pull from and I sometimes forget truthfully, sometimes I forget things in my toolbox and then it might take a client or a friend or they literally just appear and it’s like, “hello did you remember me?” Have fun as it can be so overwhelming and that, the process of healing, can create anxiety and distress in the body. We want you to have fun – enjoy the process. Play, which is another big part of this… a lot of times as adults, we forget to play and have fun and be willing to make mistakes and to try something that isn’t your favorite. But at least you tried it, right? Just like when we were little, you’re encouraged to try all these different foods – maybe you’ll love it, maybe you don’t. Whatever you can always add to it later.

  1. Ebb and flow

The third piece to really keep in mind is that enlightenment or balanced chakras or wellness or however you want to term that – ebbs and flows. We live in a world of duality. So to be happy, we have to know what sadness feels like right, so full is to support individuals my mission statement is to support individuals to feel empowered navigate life’s adversities with ease and grace and let love light and joy flow through them. In other words, things are going to happen, we want to have a big bubble so that we can navigate all these things that come our way.

In any given day, I have great moments of pleasure like that absolute high, and I have lows. However, I try my best to live a life where I’m vibrating at a higher frequency so that even those really sad things – because in my family too we have death, we have illness, we have great sadness, there’s a lot of things that go on and even in my personal world and let’s not mention what’s going on in our world around us – we don’t want to get consumed by those lower vibrations. But balance is oscillating between. We’re living in Shades of Gray. There’s the full extreme of pure white light and then there’s the other extreme of that darkness. But we don’t live in black and white. You crash and you’re like, “I don’t know if I want to go on one more second.” But the thing is, we want to bounce out of that. What I noticed with people over time is that they bounce back faster so even something silly like, let’s say somebody cut me off on the road, in the past, that used to make me so upset. I would think about it and think about it for a long time, and it would just like eat away at me. Now, when things like that happen, it’s like, first I’m grateful thank goodness you know we didn’t have an accident. Then I approach that with compassion; maybe the person is rushing to the hospital, maybe they just got really bad news, maybe they’re just not well generally or maybe they have zero ability to feel or think about anyone else other than themselves. In all those cases, me offering compassion is much more supportive and therefore I’ve relieved myself of that weeks’ long of festering and stress over a situation because I had allowed it to consume me.  So that’s an example of how we bounce back.

Accepting that every day, we have these ebbs and flows, I tell people I want to see life more like this as opposed to those extremes, with our health to our moods to our experiences. Every day, have a little joy. A lot of times, people are like working so hard so that they can have that one week vacation or partying like they don’t go out for three months and then all of a sudden go out and they’re partying for like seven days! I prefer to have more of this; it’s a lot easier to keep this than it is these extremes. When you do have the extremes and you have that moment of like just elation, you recognize that even when it’s not that amazing, even this and that is still amazing. Those highs… and when you have that crash, sometimes you’ll sit there a little longer and that’s okay. The goal isn’t to bounce out of it right away; the goal is to oscillate more here. So those are my three main points around um finding balance in our bodies.

Maria: Thank you so much Francesca please share where people can find you?

Francesca: Well, I make it easy – my website is https://www.francescabonta.com/. If you’re looking for me on social media, I am a little more active on Instagram @francesca.bonta. I’m on Facebook not as much but I’m there and I’m also on LinkedIn as Francesca Bonta so just type in my name and you’ll find me.  I do have in person appointments available in Toronto and Coburg and I have virtual appointments available around the world.

Maria: That’s fantastic, it’s great that you have a mix of in-person and online too. Thank you so much for joining me today! I really appreciate your time.

Francesca: It was an absolute honor and a pleasure. It’s always great to connect with you and I feel really blessed that I’ve had this opportunity to share with you as well as with your audience so thank you thank you so much.